So I’m only 15. While I hope my boyfriend is the one for me, I also doubt it. I have had a girlfriend “Amy” since I was 12 but I am polyamorous and so is my boyfriend “Avery”. He is also dating some dude who I’ll call “Alex” since his name starts with the same letter as Avery’s and my girlfriend’s.

He said he’d love to call sometime and I’m sure he loves us equally, but he calls Alex for hours a day, for like 5-12 hours, and barely acknowledges my texts, he just reads them. In fact, he asked me to hang out with him but that was because he was bored that Alex wouldn’t be coming over.

Idk what to do. I feel wrongfully a bit sad and like I’m the bad guy.

They sleep on calls all the time too at night and I’m trying not to care but I’m sad because he spends more time with Alex than me. I wanna sleep over at his house sometime and do all the stuff they do but he can’t because he’s always busy with Alex. Maybe I’d be liked more if I was a boy…

I may be overreacting

  • AbouBenAdhem@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 month ago

    I’ve never been in a poly relationship, but from the ones I’ve seen I think the key is to distribute your affections between partners in proportion to the affection they’re willing to devote to you. In general this distribution won’t be equal, nor will it match what any given partner would want it to be in a perfect world. If everyone isn’t willing to accept that, it’s not likely to end well.