Your comment made it sound like you love her thanks to her disabilities, rather than because of who she is which includes her disabilities. That the disability positively affects your rating of her rather than it being an integral part of her when she is always good enough. I’m glad that isn’t the case, though I stand by my reaction being appropriate to what you wrote.
They’re autistic. Their disabilities are them. They literally make them who they are as a human. All the negatives and all the positives and all the difficulties and everything, they are who they are because of it. And I love them as a person, not despite or thanks to anything. I’m ADHD with a couple other neurospicy crap and I struggle with a lot of things. One of them is misinterpreting language on top of being dyslexic. They sometimes need to repeat or rephrase something they’re telling me multiple times (and I can see they’re becoming annoyed) because my brain just won’t process the words correctly. But when it clicks not only do I understand but they feel proud they found the right words for me.
Mental disorders are literally part of the person. They make the person that I/You love.
I’m ADHD with a couple other neurospicy crap and I struggle with a lot of things. One of them is misinterpreting language on top of being dyslexic.
Ah, maybe that’s what happened then. Or maybe I suck at writing. What I tried to say was:
I now understand that you love them as a person.
I am happy that you love them as a person.
Your first comment made it sound like you wouldn’t love them as a person.
Your first comment made it sound like you would love them thanks to their disability.
Loving someone thanks to their disability is gross.
I was right to write my first comment the way I did because your first comment made you sound gross.
I’m glad to agree wholeheartedly with you, and I apologise for the confusion and distress. I am also autistic, but that’s no excuse for me writing unclearly or misgendering. Thank you for being patient with me.
What happened is you replied to Pheonixdog as if they were the person you were originally talking to named Una, which made it seem like assumption was happening, when it was just confusion.
You replied “your comment makes it look like you love them thanks to their disabilities” to Pheonix, but it was Una’s comment.
That’s nice. I’m happy for you both.
Your comment made it sound like you love her thanks to her disabilities, rather than because of who she is which includes her disabilities. That the disability positively affects your rating of her rather than it being an integral part of her when she is always good enough. I’m glad that isn’t the case, though I stand by my reaction being appropriate to what you wrote.
Love how you not only assumed the reasons I love my partner but also misgendered them at the same time.
Maybe you should sit down and think about how you view others before judging them.
Sorry for the misgendering, I don’t know how I messed that up.
I thought I was paraphrasing what you said. So if you still have the patience to help me out, could you explain how the things I said were wrong?
They’re autistic. Their disabilities are them. They literally make them who they are as a human. All the negatives and all the positives and all the difficulties and everything, they are who they are because of it. And I love them as a person, not despite or thanks to anything. I’m ADHD with a couple other neurospicy crap and I struggle with a lot of things. One of them is misinterpreting language on top of being dyslexic. They sometimes need to repeat or rephrase something they’re telling me multiple times (and I can see they’re becoming annoyed) because my brain just won’t process the words correctly. But when it clicks not only do I understand but they feel proud they found the right words for me.
Mental disorders are literally part of the person. They make the person that I/You love.
Ah, maybe that’s what happened then. Or maybe I suck at writing. What I tried to say was:
I now understand that you love them as a person.
I am happy that you love them as a person.
Your first comment made it sound like you wouldn’t love them as a person.
Your first comment made it sound like you would love them thanks to their disability.
Loving someone thanks to their disability is gross.
I was right to write my first comment the way I did because your first comment made you sound gross.
I’m glad to agree wholeheartedly with you, and I apologise for the confusion and distress. I am also autistic, but that’s no excuse for me writing unclearly or misgendering. Thank you for being patient with me.
What happened is you replied to Pheonixdog as if they were the person you were originally talking to named Una, which made it seem like assumption was happening, when it was just confusion.
You replied “your comment makes it look like you love them thanks to their disabilities” to Pheonix, but it was Una’s comment.
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fuck
I meant to reply before that it happens, and it’s no big deal. I hope you’re having a nice day.
My keyboard psychologist also says that person has some kind of codependency issues… but if they’re truly happy, all’s good and I wish them well.