Gamification of Life - An app that tracks each day you drink water and cheers you on by telling you your streak

Gamification of Work - loyalty programs that give you points to be spent at the employee shop if you hit arbitrary targets

Workification of Games - padding playtime with endless grinds and daily quests

Workification of Life - you better work if you want to keep living :(

Technically it should Snowball V, but in today’s economy we need to save on bowls

I came here to say this

Maybe it’s the communities I’m in, but it sure seems like the fediverse skews autistic. Not only is RSD quite common in autistic people, but a lack of social grace is also pretty normal

I’m sorry for your loss. That’s a heavy thing to deal with, and to go through it three times is pretty brutal.

Suicide hotlines are still a thing. Exactly how they work and how to contact them will vary depending on your region. They’re almost certainly in need of more operators, and while I’m sure they’ll give you some advice for helping people going through it, I’m not sure what kind of experience you need to work or volunteer with them (again, that will vary with region).

I will caution you that it’s an extremely difficult job. That’s not to dissuade you from going out to help people - but to help others you have to help yourself first so you need to be aware what kind of toll that work can have on people.

Regarding my own suicidality and with men in particular there comes a fear of vulnerability. Suicide is one of the heaviest, most personal things a person can go through. Oftentimes our culture, or upbringing, or gender norms prevent people from opening up emotionally. Suicide is taboo and the suicidal often struggle with feelings of guilt, and talking about it brings in a fear of rejection or ridicule.

The advice I can offer is to try and foster an environment where people can open up to you judgment-free. If you’re willing to be vulnerable around others that sets an example that they can be vulnerable around you. Hearing about suicide is also an upsetting thing, and if you have a history with several victims you might naturally be upset to hear someone is considering it a fourth time. If your feelings are explosive, try to rein them in - an outburst likely means they won’t open up to you again.

Because the fear of opening up is real, it might be difficult to recognize the warning signs. This isn’t a failure on your part, the victim is literally hiding it from everyone. Most people expect the suicidal to be depressed, but people will often socially mask their feelings by overcompensating with an appearance of happiness. However, if there is someone who you fear is considering suicide and is outwardly depressed, and then one day out of the blue they’re suddenly fine - that can be a signal they’ve decided to end their life which somewhat paradoxically brings about a feeling of peace. In either case, when somebody starts giving away treasured possessions (sentimental, expensive, or things they use every day), that’s a pretty clear warning.

I’d also advise you to check out some resources online. There are associations for suicide prevention and mental health in general that have some fantastic resources available to the general public. While not specifically what you asked for, here is a toolkit for people who have lost someone to suicide.

There is one more thing I’d like to add. It might be upsetting, but its intent is to give you peace of mind: you can’t help everyone. That’s not a cop-out or callousness either. In psychiatry there is a concept of resistance which implies a couple things.

First, a patient is likely to resist any psychiatric intervention - therapy is difficult, it can hurt you emotionally, and the patient’s disordered behaviour is often a coping mechanism that they’ve learned to deal with their life - even if they want to be fixed they might not want to lose their coping methods or lifestyle.

Second, a therapist is unable to help a patient that does not want to help themselves. You can try every trick in the book, but if they’re really not into it then there’s no way to help them. That’s not a personal failing on the therapist’s part. Now technically in the case of suicide you might be able to point to how a doctor can force someone into a hospital if they’re at imminent risk of suicide - but stripping someone of their autonomy and pumping them full of drugs until the danger passes is the exact kind of behaviour that would prevent someone from opening up again.

I am really sorry you’re going through it. Don’t beat yourself up, and try to remember them as they were before they got sick

Funny enough, I didn’t have a problem getting your book from Anna’s. I could not find a version on Bookracy that would download

Bookracy leaves me feeling squeamish. I don’t know what CloakGPT is, but it sounds disgusting. And while I do agree that knowledge should be free, their vibecoded app can’t even filter by language when their books are tagged as such.

I agree that knowledge should be decentralized and distributed. I don’t think this is it though

“Hot Girl Summer” was something of a meme and then became a chart-topping song for a while. It’s a cultural movement that promotes self respect, body positivity, stuff like that.

“Hot Girl Suffer” is a little bit of wordplay that sounds like it’s the opposite

So if that regularly happens, and it still goes to shit, does that make the fugazi snafu fubar?

I’m not an expert on the global legality or anything, but it looks like DNS is handled by ICANN

Even though they’re a global group, ICANN is headquartered in the USA, which means they’re probably obligated (legally, not morally) to carry out the block

It’s still bullshit, but it is what it is

I’m agoraphobic. It’s practically impossible living your life without leaving your house though.

Even taking out the trash or checking my mailbox can be an ordeal. I’d much rather have a regular phobia, like spiders, snakes, clowns, or something easier to avoid.

Was this the one about video games playing it safe?

I wrote a rather detailed reply and it was deleted before I got to post it. Super lame

I’m not an expert, but from personal experience I would hazard it’s mostly due to not having time to cook. And perhaps more than not having time, it’s not having the energy.

After work, I don’t want to cook. I might be physically exhausted from my job, or cognitively drained from dealing with bullshit. Some people work several jobs, some people have hours-long commutes. Then there’s obligations like childcare, family, or maintaining your social life. So some people literally don’t have enough hours in the day, and for others although there are technically enough hours, the time must be spent on recharging your batteries.

Some people recommend batch cooking and meal prep to counter this, but I personally find it untenable. It’s challenging to find the will to make a single meal, making one that’s five times larger is an ordeal. Add to it that I don’t really want to eat the same thing every day, and it’s a tough nut to crack.

There are almost certainly people who don’t know how to cook. Public education has been gutted in the US, so to learn cooking you probably have to rely on either your parents teaching you, or having the motivation to learn it yourself. If your parents are also struggling to find the time to cook, they probably don’t have the time to teach you either. Self-taught learning can be a crapshoot for most people: it can be too open-ended to know where to start, or discouraging when you fall into a newbie pitfall, or you focus on the wrong things.

That’s not to say it can’t be done. Self-teaching is a valuable skill that will take you far, but perhaps ironically, you have to learn how to do it yourself. Partly due to its nature, and also see above where public education has been gutted.

As for it being cheaper: maybe, but not likely. Some meals it might become cheaper to purchase that way due to economies of scale in processing, but it’s almost certainly going to be cheaper to buy the raw ingredients yourself. Exceptions might apply for stale-dated food: something that the grocer was going to discard but gave it a second life by processing means they might be able to afford to lower the price. If you’re not picky about what you’re eating, a ready-made meal that’s about to expire will probably be discounted. I still don’t think it would be cheaper than buying ingredients, but it’s definitely cheaper than a restaurant.

One thing not mentioned is access to equipment. I don’t have a rotisserie or a deep fryer. Some people might not have a full size oven, or are forced to do most of their cooking on a hot plate. Still others might not have access to a kitchen at all.

I’m often annoyed by this too because a screenshot doesn’t really prove anything, but the name of the article and the website are included in the screenshot

Just a web search away

I’m beginning to think that these Facebook people are kinda lame

These ducks are the marks left behind by the ghost of St Cuthbert - patron saint of ducks - as he does battle defending the manuscripts against Titivillus. The demon goes to insert errors into the script, sees a misplaced duck, and thinks to itself ‘drat, someone has beat me to it’

It would be downright heretical to ink over such a blessed addition to the manuscript

My turnaround time on folding laundry is down to three days. Truly I’m healing

My folks had a ghetto blaster when I was growing up, and I thought it was a cool name - completely unaware of the racial implications

One day I was talking to a friend who also grew up in the CD era, and the topic steers towards my dad’s ghetto blaster. They grew very concerned and were like, “Is everything okay at home, does your dad have a manifesto, should we call the police or something?”

Even though they definitely knew what a boombox was, they thought I was talking about a TEC-9. I no longer call a boombox a ghetto blaster.

You aim for a strike and still end up with a spare 😔

There’s about 400 beans in a one-pound can, and a blackhawk has an internal cargo limit of 2600lbs. It could alternatively carry a 9,000lb load via sling.

That’s either 1,040,000 or 3.6M beans

Of course, some of that is going to be in packaging, and the average dried bean is about half the size of a ready-to-eat bean. I’m guessing you could make it between 4-10 million beans depending on how you want to optimize

Dry Bones, because just like real life, if you call in DOA the boss will still want you to show up

That’s a bummer. The industry gets by on misrepresenting its product, so I guess that doesn’t really surprise me

This is often a symptom of a razor-thin labour budget. Management tends to view rotation as a cost, and any cost that can be ignored probably will be.

If the milk is off so quickly past the best-by date, I’d imagine they’re having trouble with either the fridges not keeping temperature, or literally stocking the shelves in a timely fashion. I’ve been places where pallets of frozen food keep getting taken out of the freezer and can sit out for hours while it’s being worked. I’ve had management tell me it’s fine as long as it’s less than four hours - the generally accepted safe maximum time limit - and they fail to realize that’s a cumulative time per product.

Here’s a complaint form. Apparently Hy-vee is employee-owned, so they might actually care to do something about that.