This has also been a really controversial take of mine. But I have an even more controversial opinion that if I’m not well aquanted or friends with you, using they/them to refer to you is not offensive. I can barely remember peoples names much less your specific pronouns
Fun fact this is actually a well known proven thing! Hide the pain harold.jxl
Study apon study has found that by reducing work, giving people their basic needs, and letting us follow our passions makes us exponentially more productive and happier. But that would only benifit the commoners since the rich/powerful already have all that, and why would the people at the top help when they get off on the feeling of power
At least in my experiance I’ve been dragged because “X told you their pronouns, using they means your trying to invalidate them” I’ve talked to X like 3 times and do not plan on being more then acquaintances/coworkers. Somedays I just want to say, “I wont remeber your pronouns because I don’t care about you, not because I’m transphobic” but that would just create a lot of drama I would care even less about