i only feel sexual attraction towards my partners, and they have to be sexual first. if they’re not sexual people, i only feel romance to them and no sexual feelings. i frankly don’t wanna bang anyone and have never felt like actually doing so until i met my partner, and even then, it’s more out of curiosity and romantic sparks than anything else (i’m super romantic so i’m not aromantic).

i only feel sexual feelings under certain circumstances, and even then, i use it to make myself happy and not really wanting to have sex with someone.

i am sure i feel sexual attraction, like probably towards my partner, but i’d say less so than most people do, perhaps???

i’m demisexual for now which is on the ace spectrum.

  • Midnight Wolf@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 months ago

    I mean, I’m a pet to a very sweet Master, who is ace, who is dating a boyfriend who is also ace. I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone else say they have an asexual master/mistress/dominant, yet here we are. We play super rarely, but I still get off thinking about what he can do, what I’ve told him is ‘safe’, so when we are together he could just pin me down… he just usually doesn’t take the opportunity. I’m also insatiable, but I’m also demi, so I need to know someone first (decent conversation, personal details, chatting at length…), or they are involved somehow with us, in order to start to be attracted to them (‘pet, this is my friend I was telling you about…’ for example) before I start to think about banging them. If/once I hit that point though, the train ain’t stopping.

    Labels can be useful for establishing a baseline, but you don’t need to confine yourself to a rigid ‘standard’. And just because you don’t feel like you conform to what is expected, doesn’t mean you are doing anything wrong or aren’t ‘valid’. Nah, anyone who says stuff like that isn’t worth your time.