Yeah it’s really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It’s so beautiful when someone can’t shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn’t clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.
Yes, I dated somebody who had cluster B (antisocial, borderline, histrionic, narcissistic) which made her abusive. It was not hot and it was not cute, and it ruined our relationship (which was sad).
Yeah it’s really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It’s so beautiful when someone can’t shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn’t clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.
You literally described a lot of what my partner deals with every day. We’ve been married for over 8 years and they still feel uncertainty that I will leave them, or they’ll go weeks without showering because that requires too many spoons and they’re insomniac and haven’t slept in 5 days and just eating a teacup amount of food when I make dinner for us.
Doesn’t mean I don’t love them any less. Can it be frustrating? Of course. Can it be annoying? Of course. But I married this person because I love the person, disabilities and all.
It’s not fetishizing anything. Their disabilities make them 1 of 1. I married an incredibly unique individual and I love them wholeheartedly. And all the positives I get out of the relationship greatly outweigh the negative quirks.
Your comment made it sound like you love her thanks to her disabilities, rather than because of who she is which includes her disabilities. That the disability positively affects your rating of her rather than it being an integral part of her when she is always good enough. I’m glad that isn’t the case, though I stand by my reaction being appropriate to what you wrote.
They’re autistic. Their disabilities are them. They literally make them who they are as a human. All the negatives and all the positives and all the difficulties and everything, they are who they are because of it. And I love them as a person, not despite or thanks to anything. I’m ADHD with a couple other neurospicy crap and I struggle with a lot of things. One of them is misinterpreting language on top of being dyslexic. They sometimes need to repeat or rephrase something they’re telling me multiple times (and I can see they’re becoming annoyed) because my brain just won’t process the words correctly. But when it clicks not only do I understand but they feel proud they found the right words for me.
Mental disorders are literally part of the person. They make the person that I/You love.
I’m ADHD with a couple other neurospicy crap and I struggle with a lot of things. One of them is misinterpreting language on top of being dyslexic.
Ah, maybe that’s what happened then. Or maybe I suck at writing. What I tried to say was:
I now understand that you love them as a person.
I am happy that you love them as a person.
Your first comment made it sound like you wouldn’t love them as a person.
Your first comment made it sound like you would love them thanks to their disability.
Loving someone thanks to their disability is gross.
I was right to write my first comment the way I did because your first comment made you sound gross.
I’m glad to agree wholeheartedly with you, and I apologise for the confusion and distress. I am also autistic, but that’s no excuse for me writing unclearly or misgendering. Thank you for being patient with me.
What happened is you replied to Pheonixdog as if they were the person you were originally talking to named Una, which made it seem like assumption was happening, when it was just confusion.
You replied “your comment makes it look like you love them thanks to their disabilities” to Pheonix, but it was Una’s comment.
I personally would consider psychological disorders or mental illnesses to be completely different to a personality disorder, but that’s not a common stance to have. Regardless, i hear you.
It’s a rather silly comment. Experts get to decide how these things are defined. It would be like me saying “Personally, I consider a tree to be a type of rock, but I realize that isn’t a common stance to have.”
Sure, but perhaps if you didn’t just search and then copypaste a link that agreed with you, purely in an attempt at being an argumentative ass, you would see that many experts are in disagreement about the categorization of mental illnesses.
It’s almost like i knew this when i made my original comment… 🤔
No, I prefer personality, you having personality disorder just makes you even better even hotter and more beautiful.
Yeah it’s really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It’s so beautiful when someone can’t shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn’t clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.
Please don’t fetishize mental disability.
Yes, I dated somebody who had cluster B (antisocial, borderline, histrionic, narcissistic) which made her abusive. It was not hot and it was not cute, and it ruined our relationship (which was sad).
Yeah it’s really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It’s so beautiful when someone can’t shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn’t clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.
Please don’t fetishize mental disability.
You literally described a lot of what my partner deals with every day. We’ve been married for over 8 years and they still feel uncertainty that I will leave them, or they’ll go weeks without showering because that requires too many spoons and they’re insomniac and haven’t slept in 5 days and just eating a teacup amount of food when I make dinner for us.
Doesn’t mean I don’t love them any less. Can it be frustrating? Of course. Can it be annoying? Of course. But I married this person because I love the person, disabilities and all.
It’s not fetishizing anything. Their disabilities make them 1 of 1. I married an incredibly unique individual and I love them wholeheartedly. And all the positives I get out of the relationship greatly outweigh the negative quirks.
That’s nice. I’m happy for you both.
Your comment made it sound like you love her thanks to her disabilities, rather than because of who she is which includes her disabilities. That the disability positively affects your rating of her rather than it being an integral part of her when she is always good enough. I’m glad that isn’t the case, though I stand by my reaction being appropriate to what you wrote.
My keyboard psychologist also says that person has some kind of codependency issues… but if they’re truly happy, all’s good and I wish them well.
Love how you not only assumed the reasons I love my partner but also misgendered them at the same time.
Maybe you should sit down and think about how you view others before judging them.
Sorry for the misgendering, I don’t know how I messed that up.
I thought I was paraphrasing what you said. So if you still have the patience to help me out, could you explain how the things I said were wrong?
They’re autistic. Their disabilities are them. They literally make them who they are as a human. All the negatives and all the positives and all the difficulties and everything, they are who they are because of it. And I love them as a person, not despite or thanks to anything. I’m ADHD with a couple other neurospicy crap and I struggle with a lot of things. One of them is misinterpreting language on top of being dyslexic. They sometimes need to repeat or rephrase something they’re telling me multiple times (and I can see they’re becoming annoyed) because my brain just won’t process the words correctly. But when it clicks not only do I understand but they feel proud they found the right words for me.
Mental disorders are literally part of the person. They make the person that I/You love.
Ah, maybe that’s what happened then. Or maybe I suck at writing. What I tried to say was:
I now understand that you love them as a person.
I am happy that you love them as a person.
Your first comment made it sound like you wouldn’t love them as a person.
Your first comment made it sound like you would love them thanks to their disability.
Loving someone thanks to their disability is gross.
I was right to write my first comment the way I did because your first comment made you sound gross.
I’m glad to agree wholeheartedly with you, and I apologise for the confusion and distress. I am also autistic, but that’s no excuse for me writing unclearly or misgendering. Thank you for being patient with me.
What happened is you replied to Pheonixdog as if they were the person you were originally talking to named Una, which made it seem like assumption was happening, when it was just confusion.
You replied “your comment makes it look like you love them thanks to their disabilities” to Pheonix, but it was Una’s comment.
I personally would consider psychological disorders or mental illnesses to be completely different to a personality disorder, but that’s not a common stance to have. Regardless, i hear you.
This is what a personality disorder is. It includes stuff like paranoia, schizophrenia, depression, and bipolar disorder.
Read my comment again.
It’s a rather silly comment. Experts get to decide how these things are defined. It would be like me saying “Personally, I consider a tree to be a type of rock, but I realize that isn’t a common stance to have.”
Sure, but perhaps if you didn’t just search and then copypaste a link that agreed with you, purely in an attempt at being an argumentative ass, you would see that many experts are in disagreement about the categorization of mental illnesses.
It’s almost like i knew this when i made my original comment… 🤔
Also: petrified wood. LOL
Don’t kink shame them /s
I can fix her.
umm this is still a Wendy’s, can i take your order?
You’ll grow out of it
Only when my age overflows