Whenever I see a comment on social media that I think is wrong, I feel the need to correct it. These arguments can go on for days, even weeks, and if I don’t win the argument, I get overly fixated on it, wondering where I went wrong and so on.
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But actually the big thing that helped me was sitting down and assessing why I wanted to correct this stuff. It never gave me any satisfaction, it never lead to anything I liked, and a good deal of it was likely venting trauma from being talked down to all my life. Once I put it together it just kind of stopped happening.
Acknowledge your own limitations. The reason you think in the way that you do is that you were taught to think that way. You have been exposed to thousands of ideas that form the foundation of your belief system, and you can’t convey those efficiently over a few social media posts. You can’t teach everything to everyone.
It’s okay with me if people are wrong. I disagree with everyone on at least one thing, I find, if I talk to them for more than a few minutes.
You could try this–offer your correction, and then never look at the thread again. Disengage. You’ve done all you can do, let it go. Eventually, you WILL get to that point, so get there quickly and on your terms.
It’s okay if people are wrong, and a lot of people are.
If you really can’t control yourself, then you might benefit from therapy.
welcome to lemmy! this is a slower kind of forum so you may not find yourself doing it as much here :)
i’d say you just need to slow down and breathe for a bit, then ask yourself whether this affects you. i know it’s a cliche and it’s hard when you’re “in it”, but remembering to just breathe a bit helps a lot with a lot of things. it helps you put things in perspective.
That’s not an argument.
Yes it is. That’ll be five pounds.
Yes it is.
Instead of arguing to win, I argue to learn about the other side’s opinion.
I trigger people for them to say more for my AI training. (/j)If the argument is something I’ve seen a thousand times then I don’t bother.Also, if someone starts using personal insults (“fuck you”, “kill yourself”), that means they ran out of arguments and lost.
Leave all meta products; they are build in a way that arguing is promoted. Only reply once to a post; never twice, tell you opinion and stop.
I see a lot of “just don’t” comments in here which doesn’t seem very helpful.
What are you afraid will happen if you don’t correct the wrong comment? Let’s start there.
I’m afraid that some people will be misled by this misinformation and that it will become increasingly widespread in society.
If that’s where this feeling is coming from, you could think of it this way: you will post the correct info. The OG will probably not change their mind and may argue with you with more incorrect info. Someone else might see your comment, see the OG, and think “huh yeah I didn’t realize the OG was incorrect”. You have helped someone who may have been misled.
By continuing to argue with the OG, you are just giving them more opportunity and platform to spread more misinformation. If you just post once, with the correct info, the idiot might reply and post more dumb things but you dont need to give them the time of day because you know that other people will see that they are wrong.
Well put. Often a single well said response will make OP come across better than endless arguing too. So if they want to change other’s minds, staying above the fray is the way to go.
Self discipline.
Once I learned the skill of purposely removing myself from certain online things…world of Warcraft and social media arguing were two big ones…I got a lot of my life back.
It really just comes down to self discipline and self control, which are necessary to learn if you want to actually mature and grow up.
Edit: you could also consider it the art of learning boundaries.
Don’t bother. Most people don’t care about facts, they just want their existing beliefs to be reinforced. You will not sway them, only waste time. They may even be intentionally posting incorrect information to troll or mislead. Don’t give them the time.
I usually reply once. I don’t argue. I said what I said, bye.
This is the correct way. Reply -> turn off notifications -> forget about it -> live a happy life.
These arguments can go on for days, even weeks, and if I don’t win the argument, I get overly fixated on it, wondering where I went wrong and so on.
Gotta have a strategy for deciding on a stopping point. A good overall goal for a social media argument is to get people reading to consider things they might not have thought about or been aware of before, so it’s probably not going to help if all you have left to say is finding new ways to rephrase the points you’ve already made, or explaining in detail basic uncontroversial things that your opponent is playing dumb about. It isn’t bad to let them have the last word if there is nothing that you really need to clarify or address.
Unfortunately when you get an inbox notification and read some inflammatory things, making that call to walk away is hard because emotionally you get worked up about it. This is why I think “disable inbox replies” is a good feature Reddit has and threadiverse software should implement it, a lot of the time you know in advance that you’ve already said your piece and whatever someone writes in response to you, it’s very likely going to be a mistake to respond again, and it helps a lot to just remove the temptation.
Discuss don’t try and “win,” what are you winning I’m not turning up with a prize.
