My friends and I do make this generalization a bit, but mostly at older men, boomer age. We all know a number of men who will proudly claim they never changed a diaper.
My mother in law and grandmother in law were in amazement at the level of participation I had with my kids. They commented on it a number of times (jokingly telling my wife to lock me down with sex) when they’d see me do almost anything for my own kids.
I mean there are communal events hosted for babies / pre-kindergarden toddlers and it’s almost always, exclusively women. A lot of it is because the men go to work (so sexism) and I hear the women talk about their men. It’s shameful really. I also go to a dads only gathering and lets just say the vibe is completely different for the group games.
I think nowadays I do a similar amount of work as she. Some tasks she does more, others I do more. And we both have help.
Anyway, our sex problems are as old as our marriage, many years before pregnancy.
Regarding your other comment about not having a right to sex: marriage comes with an implicit spectation of sex. If someone despises sex, they need to make it clear before marriage.
I am not talking about one side being a dick and still demanding sex. I am talking about a person with clear health problems refusing treatment because therapy is for the weak and therefore she has no problem.
I am not saying she is evil, I am saying prejudiced caricatures cause troubled people to refuse therapy.
Based on lots of things that i dont care to argue about. I don’t know if you actually believe that gender equality has been achieved wrt domestic labor but it hasn’t. A lot of dads view stuff like cooking, cleaning and changing diapers as the moms job still.
This generalization can fuck off in a number of different ways.
As a father I’m seeing all these other fathers and just think damn glad i’m not their wife.
My friends and I do make this generalization a bit, but mostly at older men, boomer age. We all know a number of men who will proudly claim they never changed a diaper.
My mother in law and grandmother in law were in amazement at the level of participation I had with my kids. They commented on it a number of times (jokingly telling my wife to lock me down with sex) when they’d see me do almost anything for my own kids.
I don’t know any new fathers though
I mean there are communal events hosted for babies / pre-kindergarden toddlers and it’s almost always, exclusively women. A lot of it is because the men go to work (so sexism) and I hear the women talk about their men. It’s shameful really. I also go to a dads only gathering and lets just say the vibe is completely different for the group games.
You say that based on what? Do you know these couples’ reality? See my other post: https://lemmy.eco.br/post/22554051/20529801
This post is explicitly talking about fathers who never change diapers or help at all with the babies. Does that apply to you?
I think nowadays I do a similar amount of work as she. Some tasks she does more, others I do more. And we both have help.
Anyway, our sex problems are as old as our marriage, many years before pregnancy.
Regarding your other comment about not having a right to sex: marriage comes with an implicit spectation of sex. If someone despises sex, they need to make it clear before marriage.
I am not talking about one side being a dick and still demanding sex. I am talking about a person with clear health problems refusing treatment because therapy is for the weak and therefore she has no problem.
I am not saying she is evil, I am saying prejudiced caricatures cause troubled people to refuse therapy.
Based on lots of things that i dont care to argue about. I don’t know if you actually believe that gender equality has been achieved wrt domestic labor but it hasn’t. A lot of dads view stuff like cooking, cleaning and changing diapers as the moms job still.