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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • Yeh possibly a little early to pull that card, might make more sense for like “the internet” or something where it’s had about 30 years to become an essential part of people’s lives. Unlike a lot of the Lemmy audience who would clearly not be the type of people he’s thinking of, I actually do make use of some of those tools so I should really be exactly one of the types he’s thinking about but while I’ve developed that habit and would likely notice the absence of the tools for about a fortnight, it’d hardly make a massive difference.





  • This is pretty accurate but I would say it’s both their flaw and their strength. There’s a lot put on the shoulders of the show probably because it’s such a cultural force and has been around for a long time. They’re often lauded for their take downs and for how well they distilled absurdities in various beliefs and I actually think that praise was pretty well deserved. They can take anything, whatever it may be and find the angle where it is visible and stupid, and that works great for comedy and only becomes a problem when it’s expected to somehow be right in doing so or is to have a coherent philosophy that can be discerned from the years of output and that’s where it really starts to break down. When something like Southpark is around this long and people place so many expectations on it, when it has to mine the cultural milieux for something current and relevant week after week and still stick to it’s “ripping on everybody” schtick, the limits of the actual commentary and messaging start to become apparent. This leads to justified criticism like yours but at the end of the day it was only ever just a tv show and frankly what they do achieve is pretty impressive for the medium and for its longevity even when compared to where it hits the limits of both.





  • Dude this is the weirdest thing to bring up and very inappropriate. You’re not in control of your friend’s wardrobe and besides, what are you actually implying is going to happen when she’s not as sufficiently covered as you deem fit? Additionally, and this is pretty important, did you consider whether or not she would have liked to have had her picture posted here especially in the context of the post you made? I take it you didn’t ask her? The fact that you took it for granted that you could just do that fits with a pattern where you also believe you can tell her how to dress. You’re going to need learn to better respect boundaries.




  • In my opinion, and the fact that it’s just an opinion is part of the answer itself, the term stupidity or stupid doesn’t really mean much of anything. As you say it has a lot of overlap with the concept of ignorance, the main reason someone might choose to use one term over the other is to make it derogatory, or to express displeasure with a person or action. If you’re neutral about someone lacking knowledge of something, you think they’re “ignorant” if you are annoyed by this or don’t like that person, you think they’re “stupid”.

    However if you look up “stupid” in the dictionary there is a bit of a difference. It focusses more on cognitive capacity than knowledge. So if you don’t know things because you’re inherently lacking in the ability to learn them effectively, people might say you’re stupid, whereas if you don’t know things because there was simply no opportunity for you ever to have learned them, then you’re ignorant.



  • I can’t really say anything of what you’ve described sounds strange. What you’ve written seems to mostly suggest that maybe it needn’t concern you too much how strange, if at all, you actually are because your usual preference for solitude and pretty healthy enjoyment of your own company kinda speaks to you having everything you need for contentment and fulfilment entirely within your reach and means already. You could potentially be more insulated from the feelings of insecurity and doubt and anxiety that comes from a more outward facing and sociable set of needs and that doesn’t make you strange. Viewed that way, it seems like your problems are mostly coming from when you start comparing, which tends to be where most people’s lives start to feel worse. When there’s some sense that you’re supposed to leave a legacy, or you’re supposed to want a companion and when you start thinking that way it can get corrosive to take general well being even when you were pretty happy before.

    That said, you have indicated some concern for how others perceive you, indicated some enjoyment from and importance paid to having and maintaining relationships with other people, so maybe that really is something you’re missing and it’s causing you a little bit of anguish. That’s a more complicated problem, but also a pretty common part of the human experience and can cause a lot problems for people. It doesn’t sound like you’re “too strange” for others to want you in their lives and to share connection with you in any way though. That sounds like a self imposed restriction that’s unlikely to be something anyone around you really picks up on or considers.

    If you are feeling alienated and isolated, this could be for a number of reasons that would be hard to get to the bottom of from your lemmy post alone but I think it might help you to know that you are signalling a certain kind of contempt for people that could be a contributing factor. You don’t need to suddenly enjoy drinking or loud music if you don’t like either but you don’t and probably shouldn’t look down upon people who do or dismiss them all as idiots on that basis. If you really do want more human contact and feel like the lack of it is leaving you depressed it would help if you could be more embracing of human differences. This has an effect even when trying to form a connection with people who, like you, don’t necessarily want loud music or alcohol for a good time. People tend to pick up on negative attitudes towards others as a whole and for the most part it drives them away. I’m afraid I’ve come across as preachy here and you’ll have stopped reading by this point but honestly, I really am trying to help here. If you look back at some of the wording of your post, a couple of things stand out to me

    I specially hate the talkative, needy ones who wont shut up and believe I care what they think

    And

    the world offers me

    If by making your post you really are interested in another’s perspective here, I can tell you that these two statements taken together are telling. The talkative people you have such a problem with probably really do think you care what they think and that’s not a sin on their part, it’s kind of a prerequisite for successful human connection which they are trying to make and thought they had, is that so wrong of them? They need to care what you think and you need to care what they think otherwise what are the two of you actually doing here? Granted there will be times when people misread signals and are mistaken in thinking they’ve made a successful connections with you but you needn’t judge them for that, they want and deserve human contact at least as much as you and they have done nothing wrong by trying to establish it, they’re putting in the work and you’re response to this is immature and ungrateful. You’re not obliged to accept their attempts to connect with you if you find you’re incompatible but this contempt that you allow to build is toxic and will get in the way of you ever managing to find someone you do care about and or convincing them to care about you. The second of those statements I’ve single out sums up where your thinking on this might have gone astray: the world isn’t offering you anything and doesn’t really have an obligation nor tendency to do so, it’s just us people here, on this rock together and in order to get along and live fulfilling lives it’s we, not the world, who must do the offering ourselves . If you’re unhappy with the quality of the people you perceive as being “offered” to you by the world you might want to reflect on what you’re offering them in return exactly. So far it sounds like if someone tries to talk to you or include you, you’ll be secretly or perhaps not so secretly, be resenting them for assuming you care what they think or talking too much, or you’ll consider them to be idiots because of their music tastes or enjoyment of drinking.

    Again different strokes for different folks, you don’t have to suddenly pretend or force yourself to like doing things you don’t like, but at least don’t hold it against other people for not being the same as you and try to be generous with them and let them surprise you. Your self sufficiency and self reliance are great assets and maybe they could make such generosity for you, a less risky proposition, you might have less to lose since at least you don’t crave human contact in an unhealthy way like some, or suffer from the same anxiety about how you’re perceived as some, and so hopefully should not risk being hurt or suffering greater depression if your efforts don’t pan out.

    Good luck any way. I hope things get better for you one way or another.