Fun, but I don’t love the Polish word selection because a lot of these are supposed to contain special characters and they’re not actual real Polsih words without them.
Like blad - that’s not a word. Błąd is a word, it means a mistake. So does this count or no? Or kal vs kał, one is a word (means feces) and one is just some letters.
Sorry that that happened to you! Unfortunately there are many people in lesbian communities that can be quite judgemental about such things.
And some people just simply haven’t considered the difference between being attracted to and physical enjoyment derived from sex with somebody. Look at asexual people (who generally experience very limited or no sexual attraction) - some of them are having partners and enjoying sex, and it’s incorrect to say that they aren’t ace anymore because of that (although there has been some drama regarding this topic, go figure). Same in your case.
I’d say saying you’re a lesbisn is absolutely fine - you’re the final arbiter of your own identity.
Arbitrarily forcing a choice to clarify your feelings on the matter can actually be very useful, it’s just a bit rude to use other people for it. When I have a choice like this I’ll sometimes throw some dice (d6, 1-3 for white, 4-6 for blue), if I’m happy or don’t mind what they landed on then it’s the correct choice, if I’m not I’ll probably realize which option I was secretly hoping for was and go with that.
It’s a reference to a meme that was particularly popular on Tumblr at some point, it’s called Apollo’s Gift of Prophecy Dodgeball, you can google that to see some examples. Basically when someone makes an obvious and ridiculous joke that (much) later turns out to be true, they were struck by the dodgeball of prophecy.
In Poland we use standard qwerty keyboards with Polish keyboard layout set (called Polish Programmers), you press alt+character to get the special version (like alt+s gives you ś, alt+a gives you ą and so on, the only nonintuitive one is alt+x which is ź (because alt+z is taken by ż). Combine with shift or caps lock for capital versions. No issues.