Would you ever straight up say to your son, ‘You are a disappointment’?

  • abbadon420@sh.itjust.works
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    1 month ago

    No, but I would say something like “I am very dissapointed in you for doing X”. A kid can’t change who they “are”, but they can change what they “do”.

        • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
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          1 month ago

          we’re talking about people dude. we are not talking about scientific principles.

          people claim want to be healthy and then engage in unhealthy behaviors. they are unhealthy. what they do is what defines them, not what they desire to be.

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            1 month ago

            Yes we are talking about people. People can be held accountable for their actions and people can change their ways if they make mistakes. You’re saying that people cannot change. If they bought a tesla, they’re nazis, so fuck them.

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                1 month ago

                That’s the point though. I’m not telling you anything about yourself. I’m telling you about what you’re saying. I’m not assuming anything about who you are or aren’t.

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      1 month ago

      This is a key distinction. To make sure they understand it properly, I usually push it even further to “You did a disappointing thing.”