Onward and upward, friend. I’m trying to convince my friend of that now. I broke off a 9-year relationship where I had to be responsible for everything; it took me a month to meet someone better. My friend is still negotiating time out with his gf of 7 years because she was cheated on in highschool. She’s 29. I try to tell him, there’s a better world out there, but he’s gotta learn.
And I kinda walked away and came back to this several times but like I said, my take away is I’m happy it happened cus I learned stuff about myself (need those hugs and snuggles) but also what I want in a partner: someone who can help me (she didn’t do it that often tho), play games with and be a goober, someone who respects my needs but also communicates theirs, mostly that’s in the context of getting physical where after two years I didn’t get to second base (unless you consider me putting my head on her lap and falling sleep, best shit ever)
But am I sad I never got super physical beyond smooching and snuggles, yeah sorta, but at the same time I view sex and getting handsy as a physical way for you and your partner ti feel great, essentially share a moment together that’s good for all parties involved. But if she can break up with me a week before Valentine’s Day yeah she doesn’t meet the criteria then
But back to your point 100%, the future Mrs. FlipFlop is out there and it’s just a matter of searching and trial and error and error probably. But for me I’m almsot outta college and I’ll probably turn it into a more active search
Bro I was scared. I’m almost 40; we broke up in the fall. I’m just now coming around to realizing I want kids. And I thought, idk. That I was too old. But I put myself out there, and no shit it literally took a month. My only advice: Never completely break a relationship, only scale it back to where it no longer hurts (only burn a bridge if that’s the line); Never settle for someone not fixing their issues; and never judge someone on what could be, only what was and is. Don’t get 9 years down the line praying for one day that never came.
Onward and upward, friend. I’m trying to convince my friend of that now. I broke off a 9-year relationship where I had to be responsible for everything; it took me a month to meet someone better. My friend is still negotiating time out with his gf of 7 years because she was cheated on in highschool. She’s 29. I try to tell him, there’s a better world out there, but he’s gotta learn.
For sure
And I kinda walked away and came back to this several times but like I said, my take away is I’m happy it happened cus I learned stuff about myself (need those hugs and snuggles) but also what I want in a partner: someone who can help me (she didn’t do it that often tho), play games with and be a goober, someone who respects my needs but also communicates theirs, mostly that’s in the context of getting physical where after two years I didn’t get to second base (unless you consider me putting my head on her lap and falling sleep, best shit ever)
But am I sad I never got super physical beyond smooching and snuggles, yeah sorta, but at the same time I view sex and getting handsy as a physical way for you and your partner ti feel great, essentially share a moment together that’s good for all parties involved. But if she can break up with me a week before Valentine’s Day yeah she doesn’t meet the criteria then
But back to your point 100%, the future Mrs. FlipFlop is out there and it’s just a matter of searching and trial and error and error probably. But for me I’m almsot outta college and I’ll probably turn it into a more active search
Bro I was scared. I’m almost 40; we broke up in the fall. I’m just now coming around to realizing I want kids. And I thought, idk. That I was too old. But I put myself out there, and no shit it literally took a month. My only advice: Never completely break a relationship, only scale it back to where it no longer hurts (only burn a bridge if that’s the line); Never settle for someone not fixing their issues; and never judge someone on what could be, only what was and is. Don’t get 9 years down the line praying for one day that never came.