For me it’s “To Mom, from Dad”, and my dad is the most surprised.
My best part is when dad gets angry about whatever it is and complains about how much all this shit cost him
I just got transported to Christmas 25 years ago.
Weaponized incompetence and choosing to ignore the mental load of running a family can go die off already.
I don’t have kids but my wife is just far better at knowing what people would like as presents. I think its dumb to not know what your partner is getting someone but I’m rather insulted that you’d take this to mean it’s offloading running a family and weaponised incompetence. You’re making a LOT of assumptions
My statement stands on its own regardless. This meme has been around for a long time and is a tired trope about one parent allowing the other to create the holiday magic while still taking credit.
You even agree with me to an extent, but wanted to jump on the bandwagon here.
Hmm, actually I think you’re right and I retract my other comment. It seriously doesn’t take much effort to talk to your partner about what they got your children so it is stupid to not know. Do people not speak to the person they love and live with? I think I got hung up on assuming you were saying it’s wrong for one person to be the gift buyer but on a re-read that’s not what you’re saying at all
I appreciate this, thank you.
This is such a bizarre thing to get upset about. If the dad works full time, possibly doing overtime as well, and mom stays at home, who has time to do the Christmas shopping?
I’m sure dad is taking on plenty of “mental load” at work.
I’m sure dad is taking on plenty of “mental load” at work.
I’m sure his kids will appreciate their dad putting so much of his time and effort into work and not them.
I mean, yeah? Kids generally do appreciate a parent working hard to support them, especially when they get older.
Gee dad, you spend your time making money so we can eat and have a place to live. I wish you didn’t do so much of that.
Are we back in the 50s now? We’re glorifying out of touch fathers who prioritize work over their families?
Y’all hate me so much you’re defending parents who can’t even bother to select a gift for their child for the holidays lol
As a dad who is sitting in the lobby of a rec center, after pulling cable for 8 hours, you a sucker for this one Velma.
Do you ignore your children and think that their mother should be the only one tending to them?
If you’re not, then I’m not talking about fathers like you with that comment. My comment was not saying fathers who work are bad - it’s parents who prioritize their work over their children that is old-fashioned and not good for children. Children benefit from having both their parents care about them during their off hours.
It’s possible that dad stayed home with the kids while mom bought the gifts and wrapped them. Not everything is that serious
It could be a healthy relationship, if they agreed to have the husband do the dayjob and the wife runs the family. It would still be a gift from mom & dad, because both contributed with their roles.
But of course, I do agree with your general statement.
the husband do the dayjob and the wife runs the family.
The children suffer in these situations.
But I get your point. Thanks.
You know what other situation the children suffer in? When the dad works a full job, and looks after the kids before and after doing the day job, and all weekend too.
Stop jumping to the most misandrist conclusion every time, human relationships are complicated and gender roles, politics, responsibilities and advantages & disadvantages vary a lot from region to region and family to family.
I invite you to actually do something to help men who are disadvantaged and are crumbling under the pressures of modern life on international men’s day.
Reach across the gender divide and give a hand.
My comment wasn’t gendered and isn’t misandrist.
https://sh.itjust.works/post/69817942
I defend men often.
No. I’m not taking this one. In this context you are being a misandrist. And you’re talking like you know what it takes to raise kids.
I’m going to ask you a question, and be honest. How many children are you the primary caregiver of? I’m the primary caregiver of ONE and it is more than enough. If you’re slinging all the words you’ve been slinging in this thread, you better be a primary caregiver, or you should butt out of discussions about how to run a family.
In this context you are being a misandrist.
Where?
And you’re talking like you know what it takes to raise kids.
Yeah, I’m a parent.
I am the primary caregiver.
OK. So are you in a situation where the entirety of your time is either looking after kids, putting money on the table to house, feed and clothe the kids, and spare time largely dominated by work related activities so you can keep your job so you can provide for the family?
Sometimes, the father has to do ALL that, and doesn’t have the time or taste to be able to pick out appropriate gifts for various people. “It’s from both of us” means the labour of the gift was spread in the family unit.
You must be in a very privileged situation to be able to spew out the stuff you talked about in this thread.
In this context you are being a misandrist.
Where?
Well, the meme is about dads. Your comment chain started of with an accusation that is largely wielded to men. Your entire post history is gender wars. It’s not quite a leap to say you are a misandrist.
Switch the genders and gender roles.
My favourite part of a gift from mom & dad is that mom is always surprised at how long dad had to work for us to be able to buy this gift
and then a man comes in and says
Yeah, worthless bimbos are good for nothing and don’t know the value of a dollar.
It could be a himbo. It’s not misogynist.
Not everything has to be a confrontation.
And here you are confronting me lol
Ok. Let’s go with that vibe:
You started it.
I’m not engaging in a slap fight with you because I voiced a single opinion on a common trope about one parent not participating in making the holidays special for their children.
It’s never just one single opinion.
I’m voicing one opinion in this post right here.
That you have prejudices against me otherwise has nothing to do with this conversation.
Bit of an overreaction but ok
It’s not cute when parents don’t care enough to put in the effort to make holidays special for their children and allow their partner to shoulder all the work.
sad dad climbs up the roof to remove smiling Rudolf
Or maybe the mom is just better at picking gifts?
This is an interesting comment when the other conversation happening in this post is about how shitty their dads were for being this type of parent in the meme.
I neither saw nor commented in that thread 🤷🏼♀️
I tended to be surprised because my wife bought expensive gifts while excluding me for pushing back on how much was being spent.
I wouldn’t tolerate that kind of deceit in my marriage, but you do you.
Note the use of past tense.
Why the snark?
I don’t find it cute when parents or spouses allow their partner to shoulder the mental load. The meme about dad being surprised about what gifts his children get for Christmas isn’t feel good.
I’m aware that some people are going to assume my original comment is gendered when it’s not.
Apologies, I saw “wife” and not “ex-wife”.
I don’t think that is a good reason to include an insult in a reply, but you do you.
I didn’t include an insult though?
“I wouldn’t do [thing], but you do you” is an insult.
To be fair, depending of how long I got it, I would be surprised even if I chose it too.
Sometimes I order myself presents and forget when they arrive.
