I once was encouraged, vocally and clearly, by a girl to cross the room and kiss her. It would have been my first kiss or, indeed, romantic encounter of any kind in person.
I didn’t and we just sat on opposite couches until our friends got tired of checking on us and took us our separate ways.
I once had a long-time friend (through her shirt/sleeve holes) take her bra off and throw it at me and then sit on my lap at a party once.
It was another 3 years before I found out she had a huge crush on me and was hoping I would do literally anything other than sit there awkwardly
We really should start teaching people to use words to communicate
That’s not reliable, either.
I once was encouraged, vocally and clearly, by a girl to cross the room and kiss her. It would have been my first kiss or, indeed, romantic encounter of any kind in person.
I didn’t and we just sat on opposite couches until our friends got tired of checking on us and took us our separate ways.
To be fair, in the era of “first kiss” it’s important to remember that we are all awkward as fuck.
That’s how my wife got me.
She told me directly. No “read the room” BS. No “pick up the signals”. No twirling her hair and winking at you.
Just straight talk. “I’m having a good time. So grab my boobs and then put your tongue in my mouth.”