Where is my Mom on this chart relative to OP’s mom?
Your mom is in the purple section because she isn’t for love or friendship. OP’s mother sadly wouldn’t fit in the diagram.
*your mom is off the charts
Gonna need a bigger screen or a projector to draw a circle large enough for your mom.
Are cuddle buddies friends or mates ?
Homos
Friendly reminder for my fellow aces out there that the sex circle just means compatibility not necessarily actually having sex. If both of you are cool without doing the Horizontal Mambo, then that means you fulfill the sex circle.
My wife and I have been married 8 years this July and we haven’t had sex since we conceived our twins who turn 6 this summer. I love her to bits, she’s my best friend. I’m just ace and she’s almost exclusively sexually attracted to women.
Fascinating setup. Does she have sex with women outside your marriage, if I you don’t mind me asking?
Neither of us is opposed to the idea per se, but between some issues with her health and us taking care of our kids she doesn’t really feel like looking if that makes sense?
It does, thanks for sharing. Wishing her good health!
Yeah, me and my partner have been together for over ten years. We’re both ace, so sex hasn’t been on the table from the start and we’re both fine with it. Though I’m aro too, so who the fuck even knows how this works - but hey it does, so who cares.
You really don’t need to follow some stupid norms about how relationships should be
Right? Who even knows at this point? My partner and I even sometimes call our arrangement “Friends With (Tax) Benefits” as a joke. lmao xD
Couple Love Sex
Perfect match Love Sex
Friendship Love Sex!
Don’t love sex too much though or you might become a poor dog or cockroach in your next life.
Ahh yes the Entertain Dog (homo dog) lol
If you ever see a dog performing tricks, you know he was a very gay dude in his previous life
How high does one have to be to come up with this
YES
Good, but realize there are two people, each with their own idea of which part of this diagram applies to their relationship with the other person.
P1: Love + Sex
P2: Friendship + Sex
Situationship?
P1: Love + Friendship + Sex
P2: Friendship + Sex
Unrequited Romantic Love for P1.
‘Its not that serious’ for P2.
And then this gets even more complicated when you try to account for just sexual attraction, desire to have sex with the other, but not having actually had sex yet, as a variable for both parties.
P1: Friendship
P2: Love + Desire for Sex
Clueless ‘Friend’ for P1
Limerence/Infatuation for P2
P1: Friendship + Love
P2: Friendship + Love + Desire for Sex
… Greek Tragedy.
And and, this is just for monogamous couples or pairings and doesn’t well describe polyamory, cucks, cheaters, swingers, etc.
And and and, as Macchi the Slime points out, this also is inadequate to describe asexuals aces, for whom both P1 and P2 sharing Friendship and Love constitutes a full couple relationship, potentially a perfect match, or where an ace paired with a non ace can follow different dynamics/rules.
In conclusion, nice try cartoon cat, humans are unfortunately considerably more complicated than that.
But you just used it as a tool to categorize and explain a wide swath of relationship dynamics. The only thing you needed was to apply it to the individuals instead of the relationship writ large.
I think the cat is in the middle of a lecture too. Maybe that’s the next slide?
I guess my point is that this is but a stepping stone to perhaps a better systemic way of trying to understand things…
… or, perhaps the fact that you have to keep complexifying and expanding on the original concept and giving it caveats and special cases… means that some other kind of fundamental approach would be superior.
Lets hear what Professor Cat has to say.
Why is this a shitpost? I feel like it’s a wholesome meme or whatever
Wait, what? How can you love someone without friendship? People I care about are either friends or family. So without friendship, sex + love is just… incest?
Idk if there’s any love without friendship between peers.
Bullshit, you can have a perfectly loving relationship that’s based on deep friendship without sex and you can have a friendship with healthy sex without love.
ITT: ugly people admitting they’re ugly without saying the words.
it’s complicated
Not really, I love a lot of my friends. You don’t need to be a couple or family to love someone
I think love here means falling in love, in an erotic way. The broad term “love” complicates communication sometimes.
Sorry but this is a trigram
Mods remove. Clearly not a Shitpost.
i hate that i need to agree. the post is solid, its got to go.
I was curious about what it would be like to have a fuck buddy for a while to be honest, thought it would be interesting and shit, unlike one-night stands.
Anyway, humans became too terrifying and morally repugnant recently to do anything like that.
Once some minimum standards, like human rights, international law, and just basic decency is restored, once there is some actual hope for this species going into the Jetsons future, instead of blade runner, or AM, then we can talk.
You’re much more likely for this to develop organically than finding someone through an app (which I inferred would be your plan since otherwise you wouldn’t be exposed to people in general)
Yeah, it was I guess, find someone who is more like a friend (that you happen to also fuck), maybe the same approach for someone I don’t want to fuck (but for romantic reasons instead), or maybe both, no need for those to be exclusive.
Now I’m exposed to people because I’m used to it I guess, but I’m prepping myself mentally to not depend on people, because I’m also used to be rejected as a bad person because I can’t do certain things. Like, being lazy for having ADHD. Mostly punished for things I can’t control, when I would rather be away from those people alltogether. I started prepping myself for a world that admits no rights.
No matter what world we live in, we can always find community. Sure, if it comes to full on fascism, finding it might be dangerous, but that’s not the case in many parts of the world.
I always fall in love with my fuck buddies because I am weak and what I actually crave is companionship.
I’ve had a couple of those situations. In all cases it was a friend that I ended up getting horny with, and then we figured “why not?”. In all cases, the answer turned out to be that shit quickly gets complicated when people develop new feelings because they’re sleeping together.
Frankly, I have no issue with polyamorous people, but I honestly can’t understand how they get it to work. Every time I’ve slept with someone repeatedly over an extended period of time, it ended up fundamentally changing our relationship to the point where being with anyone else became an implicit no-go. I have no explanation for exactly why but those feelings just developed, no matter how much we promised each other they wouldn’t, and pretended they didn’t.
Frankly, I have no issue with polyamorous people, but I honestly can’t understand how they get it to work.
Some people are just built different. I don’t understand how they get it to work either, but if it works for them, good for them. I don’t have to not think you’re weird to accept that you exist.
this is pretty good actually
