• Paranoid Factoid@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    🎵 I’m an object, 🎵

    🎵 She’s an object, 🎵

    🎵 He’s an object, 🎵

    🎵 We’re all objects, 🎵

    🎵 Wouldn’t you like to be an object too? 🎵

  • anton2492@lemmy.nzEnglish
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    2 days ago

    Saved. Working on being honest with what I want. Hoping we get the happiness we all deserve. One of these days…

  • AllNewTypeFace@leminal.space
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    3 days ago

    OK, by now we get that you’re rampantly horny, but besides that, what’s your damage? Just the standard ADHD/autism, or borderline/dissociative or something extra spicy?

  • LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    Do people really want the whole “be used as a sex toy any time” thing? I do not understand that at all, tbh. I’m not judging y’all or whatever, it’s just a very confusing concept to me. But sex is also a very complicated thing for me because of some shit I went through in my last relationship.

    • lemmeerefugee@lemmy.zip
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      3 days ago

      Many people like a bit of subordination/domination. As most things, it’s a spectrum and there are some people tending to either edges.

      The two big caveats about subordination fetishes are however that firstly, such fantasies can be a response to trauma and/or abuse and secondly, it puts you in a very vulnerable position and leaves you very open to exploitation.

      It’s the “comfy wholesome” part which really holds this together and makes it great: You’re putting an immense amount of trust and responsibility on your partner if you submit yourself like that and it can only work if your partner is fully aware of this, up to the task and really cares about you.

    • Gonzako@lemmy.world
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      3 days ago

      Yeah, some people are into that. Terms called free-use. Sometimes its just an overly desire to be available to your significant other but there are many different ways one arrives at such affirmations

    • Bazell@lemmy.zip
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      3 days ago

      Can be wrong, but I suppose that here people mean that they are willing to have intercourse without preparations at any time they can if, of course, nothing prevents it(illness, urgent work, emergency, etc.). No need to have each tome a romantic date or a special occasion.

    • Machinist@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      3 days ago

      Yes, not at all uncommon in the BDSM community. Neither are 24/7 kink relationships. However, reality is different from fantasy and there is a fair amount of nuance in how this works in the context of a LTR and not a fun weekend.

  • Buddahriffic@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    The whole “sex object” complaint never made sense to me tbh. Like I’ve always wanted “sex object” to be a part of my identity. It’s great for non-sexual stuff to be appreciated, but I’d want my partner to just be horny for me at least for a portion of the time.

    • Affine Connection@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      3 days ago

      The whole “sex object” complaint never made sense to me tbh.

      The key word here is object. When people complain about sexual objectification, most often they are complaining about people being treated as if they were sexual objects devoid of agency. There is nothing wrong with sex.

    • vga@sopuli.xyz
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      3 days ago

      Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think the problem is more about people other than your partner thinking like that.

    • andros_rex@lemmy.world
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      3 days ago

      It’s a problem when it’s all that your partner cares about. Sex is great, but the vast majority of the time you spend with your SO will not involve fucking. That other 90% is important too.

    • petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      3 days ago

      I don’t know if it’s puritanical or what, but I think some people misunderstand sexual objectification to be a rejection of all sexual displays entirely. Like as an idiom, even.

      On the idiom point, it’s entirely possible to objectify people in other ways, but I never really see anyone talk about them.

      • Monument@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
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        3 days ago

        Being treated only as a font of knowledge, a hard worker, a reliable friend (when the friendship is otherwise not rewarding), having a lot of tools, etc, is kind of crappy. I at least get pleasure from sex. Honestly, if I had my druthers of how folks reduce me, I wouldn’t hate being valued for being good in bed.

        I wonder if the friend with the truck ever feels like that.

        • petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          3 days ago

          Hm, they could. I don’t think that objectification is truly always a bad thing. It obviously sucks when people use you, but being ‘the friend with …’ can also be an excuse to see people more often. Kind of like how the social function of a lot of holidays is just to bring distant people together again.

          Sexual objectification is of particular importance because it has ties to the cultural perception of women, rape culture, etc., but it’s also fine to just think your wife who you admire for her strong perserverance and creativity also has titties that are fire.

        • Modern_medicine_isnt@lemmy.world
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          3 days ago

          On your edit… yes, and the problem there is that should be considered coercive for all work. We shouldn’t work for money. We should work because the work has value to the population. A lot of work is the opposite, and yet people do it because they have to pay the bills. Working in scam call centers is an extreme example. There are people who go to sex clubs and such where they have sex with semi strangers and what not. There would probably be a lot more if it wasn’t considered taboo. So the “industry” as it is would not go away, it would change if paying the bills wasn’t the driver.

  • potoooooooo ✅️@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    3 days ago

    I had this for a couple of years. It’s all it’s cracked up to be. Really wish she hadn’t gone crazy, shaved her head, and moved to Bali.