Don’t have to say a name, something like “local thai place” is fine.
Bonus: What makes it a perfect date dinner spot?
Somewhere in nature like parks, seaside
Pizza. I’m not interested in dating anyone who thinks a 5 star restaurant is necessary. I want a real person, not a pompous jerk.
Waffle House for the opportunity to demonstrate my martial prowess
If the date is still going at prime waffle house fight hours, you’re already doing well.
Naw down in Tennessee you mostly gotta show your musical talents by singing classics while drunk. With the rare but fucking awesome backflip spin kick that you gotta serve to some rando.
The Y.
I took my wife to a semi-fancy restaurant by a bar. We ate dinner, had drinks and then when we had too much fun at dinner we went to the bar. It was nice
Went on a date last night. We saw some live music and walked around. Took her to a really good ramen place that I had left an emphatic, detailed 5 star review for previously.
The review was so good, the staff treated us like royalty and even the owner stopped by our table.
Bam, got hugs and kisses.
From the date or restaurant staff?
Yes.
I’m a service top when it comes to restaurants (and also generally, but that’s besides the point). Typically when I am planning a first date with someone, I first ask if they have any dietary needs, and then I ask if there is any food they have been craving lately or if there are any restaurants in the area that they have been meaning to try.
If they say they are craving a specific type of food, I am pretty well enough acquainted with the different types of restaurants in my area that I can choose accordingly. I typically will choose the restaurant that serves the “best” food they have been craving. I love to bond over good food and I love showing people new things that they will enjoy (another facet of being a service top), so at the very least we will be able to talk about how good the food is and they have a new dinner spot they can take their friends.
If they choose a restaurant they’ve been meaning to try, it makes for a good dinner conversation and I potentially get to have a new spot on my restaurant list.
If they don’t have a preference, then I just choose a spot that I’ve been meaning to try that’s halfway between where we both live so it’s convenient for the both of us. If there isn’t anything I want to try in the area, I will just go for something like a sit down pizza spot.
Also, once I’ve picked a spot, I normally look in the area and pick a potential second location for us to go to if the date is going well and we still want to hang out after dinner. Typically I look for a dive bar because they’re fun, cheap, and easy to talk in.
I’m a service top
Sorry, a what, now?
Don’t you mean a foodie?
I take it you’re not queer or trans hahaha. I’ll explain :)
You know how a lot of queer people classify themselves as tops, bottoms, sides, and verses depending on which position they prefer when they’re having sex? Well within those four classifications, there are countless sub-classifications.
One subclassification in the “top” classification is “service top”. A service top is a top who prioritizes “servicing”, or pleasuring their sexual partners instead of prioritizing their own sexual gratification when they have sex.
So basically I was making a joke about myself and my own sexual classification. Because I am someone who priorizes the enjoyment of the other person in bed, it extends to my waking life and accordingly informs how I would pick a restaurant on the first date.
If I was hanging out with a bunch of queer and trans people, they would get the joke. But I realize that a random stranger on the internet probably wouldn’t get it. Sorry about that. Hope you learned something new, though!
Oooooohhhhh…
Thank you for the patient explanation. No, I am about as Cis as can be, a full Kinsey zero. But I thought that my time of running across strange phrases I completely fail to understand would come when I am considerably older. Not in my sixth decade. While I am not “with it”, to spindle grandpa Simpson’s quote, I do try to at least keep my head above water. At least I know what this euphamism is all about, now.
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Perfect dinner spot: isolated enough that no one can hear you, open enough that you can have a look at a street or something with people going on, so you have something to talk about. But that’s more of a date for me and my partner, because we already know each other.
That vietnamese restaurant i frequent. If she never had vietnamese cuisine before, she need ti know about vietnamese cuisine, it’s important.
Is this like a cautious first date or is there a good chance I’m bringing them home tonight?
If the former, let’s get some spicy Asian noodles with a huge beer.
If the latter, appies at a safe restaurant. Easy on the oil, garlic, spice, onion, and alcohol.
If the answer is anything other than Long John Silvers then you don’t have enough game to get beyond the first date.
Nothing says game like frozen fish sticks.
I prefer the chicken also if you can find an a&w combo one to get root beer it’s over.
That’s like ordering tacos at a pub. Hamburger at a Mexican joint. Chicken at a seafood restaurant? That’s been in the Frigidaire single the day they bought it.
Get the free basket of crumblies to show that you’re “in” with the staff
Can’t go wrong with Italian, IMO.
I never spend money on a first date.
For my current girlfriend, I took her to my place and I cooked her pasta. Very intimate and I don’t need to spend money.
Demonstrating skill in cooking is a great strategy, but you often can’t do that for a first date.
Still, practice, dudes. Have a few dishes you are good at making when that opportunity arises.
And if it doesn’t, you can eat well and expand those skills.
I have a hankering for Salisbury steak. So a mid restaurant I guess, gives options for her too.
Somewhere nice where she can super-size it.
