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" You gotta be true to who you really are, cause no one’s gotta wear the shoes you got "
Given to me by a former friend, high as a rocket to Venus, upon my stumbling attempt to come out to him twenty years ago
Your job is not your family. You owe them nothing. Do your job well and leave the work at the door when you leave at the end of the day. Unless you’re an owner, every bit of extra work you do is you being robbed.
Lately i talked to a lot of elderly people or people who just retired because work. They don’t know each other, they don’t even live close to each other, but the thing they have in common is the need to talk to me about young people who don’t want to work anymore. Telling me stories that “young people” just leave work when their shift is over, not caring about the company at all.
Ask them if their employer paid for their retirement (pension). Ask if they were repeatedly laid off because the work can be done [poorly] cheaper in another country. Ask if they were union.
Many companies used to be loyal to their employees and vice versa. That is all but gone now and the companies cry that nobody is loyal.
Having just been made redundant this week after 15 years this is so true.
I managed it very well, very rarely having committed more than my allotted hours each week but I know for many they would have to have been very disciplined to achieve this.
I leave with no malice or ill feeling as a result. I’d hate to think how I’d feel otherwise
They’re upset the McDonald’s employee isn’t the happiest person ever, catering to their every whim. Thats really it. They want us to be little happy bootlickers who work our asses off for nothing.
I complain about young people too but this isnt why. Dont work shitty jobs for shitty pay. If you must work a shitty job, they better fuckng pay up. Isnt that the whole “invisible hand” capitalists love so much? If you can’t find workers , you’re either an asshole, or not paying enough.
Agreed but this can be difficult to parse when you’re union organizer
Or you work for the olive garden.
Don’t Panic
Might not ever be the best piece of advice, but it’s always the second best piece of advice in any situation
This is a good piece of advice for hitchhiking around the galaxy
Always know where your towel is.
Did you sketch that frood, Triumph? Now there’s a hoopy frood, who really knows where their towel is!
Back in college, we made a party punch that we called Pan Galactic Gargle Blasters, and you’d be able to drink maybe one red solo cup worth.
Learn how to deal with people.
No matter what you do in life you have to deal with people in some way. Even if they are paid to do what you tell them it’s a huge difference if they put your request on the top or bottom of their pile.
Take a deep breath. Close your mouth. Hold your nose and then try to blow air out.
Cures hiccups.
Also… there are two kinds of people in this world:
- Those that do it
- Those that lie about doing it
Dad didn’t have much good advice, but these two have held up over the years.
Cures hiccups.
I know it sounds bullshit, but I haven’t had a long hiccup session (read: longer than ~4-5 hiccups) in more than a decade, possibly two: I chill the fuck out.
The instant it starts I take a deep breath, relax my esophagus/larynx/whatever, and put myself in the most Zen Buddha state of mind I can. I keep taking long, relaxed breaths. If another hiccup slips through I still remain a ketamine sloth, believing that it’s just the one or few passing hiccup.
Most of the time I don’t get a second (third) one. It’s over in a matter of a few seconds.
There are two other types also. Those that want to be and those who want to have been.
The former love the work. The latter don’t want to put in the effort and want all the glory.
Ask yourself the three things before you say anything.
- Does this need to be said?
- Does this need to be said by me?
- Does this need to be said by me now?
Craig Ferguson
This has been helpful for me in meetings since I have a tendency to talk more than I probably should.
Good Critical Thinking Skills are the only education you need. With Critical Thinking Skills, you can learn anything you need to know, and recognize and avoid those who will try to interrupt your life journey and take advantage of you.
This was specific to calculus homework but it has turned out to be very good advice, “when you don’t know what to do, do something”. Often decisions can be paralyzing or problems can feel insurmountable but doing nothing is a choice. Very rarely is it the best one.
Analysis paralysis is real. And it’s funny, I joke that I made a lot of poor decisions as a kid, I was impulsive, did what came to mind, but it all led me to a pretty good life, and so I’m all about just do it and deal with it.
I am not sure that’s a good in idea, but I’ll reassess from my deathbed.
Yeah. I see a lot of people get stuck on problems where they get free iterations because they try a couple of things, get stuck, and require others to come up with more ideas.
Me: this seems like sound reasoning, I should follow it and be more decisive
My ADHD:
Instructions unclear—(noun) (adjective) (preposition) (noun).
(em dash) (em dash) (em dash)
HR rep: if you’re gonna go down take people with you.
Live below your means, but not too far.
don’t waste too much time and energy trying to open some doors. Sometimes there’s a different path there waiting for you and sometimes the room is just not worth visiting
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and one of the most precious things I ever heard, not even a straightforward advice, just pure, genuine gold:
„As a man, entire world can judge me and I don’t care all that much, I am not perfect, I make mistakes, I may fall, I may fail, I may hurt, I may help, I learn and I try my best… and I am not scared of any of that, I can handle that… or even learn how to handle it better. BUT as a father, only you and your brother can judge me and about that judgement… I care the most and being a father is my biggest responsibility and the most scary thing I have ever done in my life and possibly will ever do. I know you are still young and you don’t have to but please just understand that as much as you can.“
Learn not to give a fuck
An okay plan applied immediately and vigorously is INFINTELY better than a perfect plan ten minutes too late.
If you have to whine or criticize something make sure to have a way to make it better. If you bring up a problem, bring up the solution with you.
I really hate this advice.
You don’t necessarily need to bring a solution.
The solution may come in many ways but the most important thing is bring the problem to the light so everybody become aware.
If you’re not satisfied with something whine and criticize the hell out of it. If you’re right others will show up and together we may find a solution.
Sometimes you feel something is wrong but not necessarily know how it can be fixed, but you know it’s wrong.
Don’t hold yourself from complaining just because you don’t have a solution, bring whatever you feel to discussion.
Good advice
A shit solution can absolutely be worse than the initial problem, for sure.
I get rather annoyed when someone says “I have a problem” without any further thought shown toward it.
Sure, you don’t need to always have the solution, but if you have something worth complaining about then it’s something worth putting at least a little time and effort into thinking about solving before complaining. That reflection will often come through in how the problem gets put forward such that it’s easier for everyone to help find a solution.
This is great advice. I’ve heard it refined to “bring the energy to be part of the solution” - which clarifies that one doesn’t have to have all the answers, but had better be willing to engage with solving whatever one complains about.
When I managed a team, my one big rule was to always have them try to offer something constructive to a problem, rather than them come tell me there was a problem and hope I fix it.
I would quote the Simpsons, “We’ve tried nothing and we’re out of ideas” (I never said this condescendingly)
Eventually they would come up with quick ideas and share them. And regardless if they were right or not, I would encourage them to go further and try out their idea without solving it for them. This built so much confidence in the team, they did amazing work.
Bringing the energy to be part of the solution (you don’t need to SOLVE it) really can bring a team together
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