Watching all of your heroes die.
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I’m in the same boat, and it’s a mixed bag. When they were little I used to yearn for some time alone to do my own thing, and now that I have it I want nothing more than for them to be climbing all over me again.
At least you and I have each other ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっ
It may get worse. My 3 have all grown up, graduated college and been quite successful. Unfortunately that success has led to job opportunities spread across the country… Oregon, Maine and Arkansas. Having them all gone and so far away is really, really hard. They are doing so well and I talk to them often, but I miss seeing them face-to-face and it’s rare to have them all together. It makes me very sad even though I’m happy for them.
Spending so much time going to medical appointments.
Spending so much time going to medical appointments.
Spending so much time
going toIN THE WAITING ROOM for medical appointments.FTFY
Doctors are always on their own schedule.
at least youngest gen z and younger than them, that being a YOUTUBER isnt all cracked up to be, ive heard many accounts how alot of them want to be only that, because “its easier to make money”. unless you are rich and wealthy you can attempt to do that and you can afford to fail and do nothing and come up with new ideas, even the current older influencers are wealthy people. and you need staff, producers, original ideas,etc.
only the super old og yotbers are likely not coming from money(minus PPDIE). with that behind, msot of them tend to end up being shady or pos in real life eventually. job market, with AI screening out resumes, its harder to get a job now for certain stem degrees like CS and bio-tech(not health). and degrees that already had a bad time finding jobs, will be even more difficult.
Perimenopause. Sheesh, warn a girl! (And her significant other).
Prioritize your health. Living on energy drinks and pizza’s looks fine in your twenties but then you head towards your fourties and you take meds for things like hypertension and fight a neverending war against your waist size.
Having to answer these questions.
You have to make life choices
It really sucks having young people getting on your lawn.
Unironically?
I mean, it’s a surface designed to be walkable. Wait until someone drives on it.
Be wary of burnout. That shit takes years to recover from.
Can confirm. Do not recommend.
I’m thinking of moving from my higher paying career field to one that will pay me a nearly break even salary (for this living area) because my heart just isn’t in this anymore. Talking days of staring at the screen and not doing anything. Feels bad yo.
I’m thinking of moving from my higher paying career field to one that will pay me a nearly break even salary (for this living area) because my heart just isn’t in this anymore.
How close are you to retirement? If you increased savings from [high paying career], how much longer would you have to work at it before you could stop working altogether?
Not close to retirement. Can’t save because of family debt that I didn’t accrue. If I was solo I would lean fire my way into a nice small house somewhere to chill but that ain’t happening.
mental pain is silently being replaced by physical pain
The mental pain doesn’t just go away, though.
You aren’t getting any more teeth, so take care of the ones you have.
Stress produces cortisol. Cortisol reduces your empathy.
Like Casandra, knowing the future won’t make you happy or get people to listen to you.
Intelligence is setting your medication to automatically arrive when you run out. Wisdom is having it arrive a week before you run out.
Not to belittle your point cause people should actively take care of their teeth but
And your gums. Actually floss. No one wants to but your 60 year old self will thank you.
Wearing braces for the first time at 60, because my teeth decided to start moving around enough to affect eating. And it’s just getting worse from here. I brushed: no cavities ever. I have good health/genes: one root canal is my only tooth issue. But I hated flossing and rarely did, and my dentists pointed out gum health over the decades, so here we are
Cortisol reduces empathy
That makes a lot of sense
People who don’t take care of themselves can’t take care of others.
Like Casandra, knowing the future won’t make you happy or get people to listen to you.
I wish you’d told me this years ago. I still struggle with needing to be proven right. It’s exhausting.
It’s still better to know than not know though, right? Right???
This is the way
Stress produces cortisol. Cortisol reduces your empathy.
Thanks, needed that today, really helps.
Like Casandra, knowing the future won’t make you happy or get people to listen to you.
I’m guessing most people on Lemmy have already experienced this.
Like I say at work: I’m here to share my knowledge and experience, not to be an Old Testament prophet. If you choose not to listen, it’s on you. And I keep minutes in case anyone asks “why didn’t you tell them?”
A global pandemic into a sustained recession and silent great depression will derail all the outcomes you’d built momentum towards in earlier life. You will never really fully recover. Whatever you do gain back will be a shadow of what was going to be.
So try to plan ahead for that, Kiddo.
It’s the curse of time that the elder generation only has life lessons for what they went through and the younger generation will live through new things that no one had even imagined possible. So every generation has to figure it out for themselves. Our parents educate us for a world that will not exist when we grow up.
Sounds wise, but that’s a cop out though. The general lessons are almost always universal. Don’t stockpile vaccines for the omicron variant of covid, sure - that won’t occur again as viruses evolve, but…
- don’t dismantle pandemic preparedness procedures within government/healthcare
- do have a ready inventory and rapid response manufacturing and supply chain ready for PPE production/distribution
- don’t count on the general public to be reasonable and selfless in their response to a global threat
- do count on the wealthy, and the media they own, downplaying severity and pressuring you to risk your life for their uninterrupted profit.
ETC, ETC, ETC.
Nobody serious prepares their children for the exact scenarios they saw, they generalize what’s valuable and then finish by teaching them to be ready to realize that you may be in an entirely different situation, and that will be scary, but if you slow down, you’ll realize that there’s likely plenty you can take from my experience for helpful shortcuts.
The weight of the evil of the world never eases, only becomes more intense
Getting older is great! You’ve been around long enough to see how some things change while others stay the same. You start to care more about some things and less about the rest. Every year is my favorite age! Except for the year i lost my mom- that was worst thing about aging.
