You don’t want to see them anymore.
When you can’t be yourself around them without feeling judged by them.
Having been in this position before when I was a huge piece of shit, it would behoove someone to engage in a little introspection. Turns out I was an angsty and emotionally disregulated little twat. To be fair those “friends” also kinda sucked from how they treated me while I was in some of the deepest depression of my life, but I didn’t make it easy to like me.
Hey just wanted say, respec for growing, recognizing your growth, and sharing the experience of checking your own shoes
One thing that can happen: If your current friends demand something from you other than hanging out, kindness and maybe occasional favours, they’re not really your friends.
I mean, maybe you still want to be in whatever tribe, but be aware that a cult or gang or industry network is a different thing.
At some point their corpses start to smell unbearable and you need to find fresh bodies.
No but really, same with what others said. Make sure they treat you kindly and respect your boundaries and such.
they leave you feeling worse after you interact instead of better
You seem to always be the worst version of yourself around them.
You’ve got three dead bodies in tarps, a shovel, and a sore back.
Laughing at you rather than with you
When they uproot their “normal life” and move into their vehicle and ask if they can park on your driveway and use your water and electricity and shower all because they don’t want to be part of “the system”.
(He could afford his normal life, we talked about it frequently)
Been there. When you don’t feel a connection. When you don’t want to respond to their comms. When you feel dread about speaking with them.
Fwiw, I have the most wonderful friends. Some people just move apart.
This is going to be a tough one to swallow… but if they never reach put to you unless they need you for help, you’re an accessory.
When you want to be friends with new people
When I don’t have any
When you start to want to do things you know they won’t want to do.
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