For example, if a wealthy person only wants to socialize with and date other very wealthy people, how would they know? Like, for example, what if LeBron James or Tyler Perry only wanted to be friends with other wealthy people and wanted their kids to only date and marry people from other wealthy families? How would they know the people they meet also come from multi-millionaire families? I’m sure if a random billionaire met someone at a club or social event, they wouldn’t introduce themselves by saying, “I’m X, Y, and Z, and I’m worth this much money.” What if a son of a multi-millionaire wanted to date a woman who came from a wealthy family? Also, if he meets a woman, how would he know if she comes from money or not? Like I said, she wouldn’t say, “I come from generation wealth” right off the bat.
I only met people at the whole foods hot bar… over a pound of food = wealthy less than a pound of food /= wealthy. Getting that extra $3 avocado on your burger or sandwich at a restaurant = wealthy. No one’s going to tell you but there will be signs
The place where you meet them, and the quality and style of clothing.
For real, just like cars, expensive clothing is recognizable. Don’t get me started on shoes, watches, etc.
Income frequently defines where and how people socialize, I’m pretty sure it’s not an intentional a thing.
If you don’t know the secret handshake youre not rich enough.
How rich are we talking? Owns-three-islands-rich or just upper middle class? Because the latter’s wealth isn’t very visible, but they also don’t really have an issue with forming relationships with those less well-off.
Then, for actually rich people who do not wish to associate with riffraff, there’s plenty of signs:
- Where did you meet them? There’s plenty of settings that are almost exclusively full of rich people, such as yacht clubs or expensive hotels.
- What are they wearing? Things like brand-name clothes or expensive jewelry are some notable signs.
- What is their home like? Some shitty apartment or a mansion with a manicured lawn and a swimming pool? Things like size, location, the condition of the home, their furniture, items, electronics, etc., tell a lot about the person’s wealth.
None of these is 100% waterproof, of course. They could be in that expensive place with a rich friend. They could be wearing Gucci because they got lucky at a thrift store. But when you have multiple of these combined, it’s pretty safe to assume the person is rich.
None of these is 100% waterproof, of course.
Hopefully at least the yacht is.
They don’t go to places you or I go to on the regular. They have exclusive clubs, restaurants, or hang out on someone’s yacht.
The very rich probably meet and socialize people who meet at expensive country clubs where one has to prove their wealth for Board approval.
You say this as a joke but country clubs actually do this
I don’t know wealthy people like that, they just don’t meet non-wealthy people, and not because they don’t want to, it’s just their bubble
I mean honestly it depends on the wealthy person. I know several multi-millionaires I know several people that are worth hundreds of millions of dollars. A lot of these people are quite social which enables them to have quite a big influence on quite a few things overall. Admittedly I’ve never met any of the billionaire class or anybody that is that close to being that rich. But you do have to admit that since that class is so small guaranteed they have people around them and people they know and people that hang out with that are nowhere near that level of influence.
My point was that I don’t know wealthy people who don’t want to hang out with less-wealthy people (not homelesses, just middle-class or maybe a bit lower) because of their financials.
Exclusive or elitist events, activities, education. Also how people dress and hold themselves is often a good indicator (most refer to this as class). The obvious question of what do u do is very effective at filtering out the low lives. Also networks and who you know is the real value in the inheritance not the money or assets. From a young age your taught to network and figure these things out without being too explicit and to find the people that will be successful before they are successful and if they are playing a similar game it snowballs from there.
Do you think they care? Wealth isn’t a dick size competition. They socialize with coworkers old friends, family ect. like everyone else
I think you’re talking about the slightly wealthy, not the disgustingly rich. The rich don’t have coworkers - they have staff. If we are talking about a tycoon, they may have employees numbering in the thousands, but not a single coworker. When OP mentions multi-millionaires, he’s not talking about the engineer who scraped together 3M bucks to retire on - he’s talking about the “LeBrons” and “Tyler Perrys” of the world. He also mentions billionaires. Those people definitely aren’t making friends in line at Dollar General.
Stop deifying super rich. This is primitive stereotype. They aren’t special.
What are you talking about haha? I want to round them up, skin them, and cut off their heads.
You’re a sick fuck.
Seriously, though, we wouldn’t even have to do them all. Do 10 and suddenly everyone wants to pay their taxes. It could save millions of lives.
Rich people arent even connected to people who arent rich. Its their entire ecosystem. Everyone has money, thats just how it is. They dont talk about money because they just have it. Its like air.
There are all sorts of filters:
- Expensive clubs. Members only associations like country clubs can skew towards the ultra rich. Yacht clubs and polo clubs are kinda an extreme version of this, but there are all sorts of organizations where the membership can be assumed to be rich.
- Expensive hobbies. Wine tasting, skiing, golfing, boating, horse stuff, biking, and traveling/vacations can range from the slightly expensive to prices that only the ultra rich can afford.
- Related to both of the above, expensive places. If you’re skiing in an expensive resort town, and hanging out in the lobby of a $2000/night hotel, you’ll probably only see employees of these places or other very rich people. Some have even layers beyond that, like an exclusive members only club in an expensive area, or a separate lounge for only people lodging in the most expensive rooms in the hotel. Or if you’re at a private jet airport, and weather causes delays and cancellations, standing around in the terminal might allow you to mingle with other private jet people. Or if you live in a crazy expensive neighborhood or building, your neighbors are pretty much guaranteed to be rich.
- Third party verification. Networking, introduction by mutual friends/acquaintances, even social media or dating apps where you have to prove your status/wealth.
It’s not all or nothing, either. Some places have a disproportionately high number of rich people but aren’t necessarily exclusive to the rich (private schools, certain types of clubs, certain types of activities/hobbies, public parks/restaurants/libraries/museums in rich areas). So a lot of rich people do mingle with the middle class, but often will feel comfortable letting their guard down more or less in particular places or in particular groups.
Don’t forget expensive schools.
Or if you live in a crazy expensive neighborhood or building, your neighbors are pretty much guaranteed to be rich.
Careful. We’re paying $4.10/sqft/mo rent and we are NOT rich; just in a very overpriced area.
I assume in your city, $4/month/sq ft isn’t considered “crazy expensive,” though. In a place like San Francisco or New York, a $2000/month apartment that is 500 square feet wouldn’t register as anything notable.
If it’s not considered “crazy expensive,” people wouldn’t assume you’re crazy rich just by living there.
The $90 Lacoste T Shirt 😄
The ultimate if you know, you know “dog whistle” for the Rich.
bougie rich clothes is generally a good tell, but there are also plenty of poor people who buy expensive clothes as a “status” item.
A lot of rich people actually try to live a normal looking life. Stealth wealth, and you might never find them until you get invited to their house.
Their house will be nicer than average, probably not crazy, but just a lot more than a typical person would have. They will have things like fancy light fixtures and switches that don’t look totally normal, the furniture will look normal but if you look closer you’ll only find high quality wood construction, tongue and groove, etc. You should also notice things are probably cleaner than a typical house (because regular house cleaner), everything works, and major appliances are newer generally. They are rich so they don’t have to make any budget trade offs.
These people might have insane net worth and they are trying to down play it because they know how bad it is for them when they are obviously wealthy for so many reasons.
Ostentatious wealth signals are usually sign of a HENRY or a striver, those people typically aren’t actually wealthy they have a lot of debt.
Their house will be nicer than average, probably not crazy, but just a lot more than a typical person would have.
I hear Michael Bublé lives in a modest house he inherited, and he’s a great neighbour. But he seems as un-Hollywood as people can be, so he may be a bad example.
I don’t think this answer truly internalizes how some of the ultra rich live. Yes, many are living a normal looking life, going to their jobs and doing a lot of the same activities that the upper middle class do. They generally eat at the same restaurants, have the same hobbies, and enjoy the same television shows that the rest of the middle class does. Often they go to the same live events (sports, concerts, plays, stand up comedy) that middle class people do, and often don’t bother with luxury boxes or things like that. They’re members at the same gyms, and might plot out the same run trails as normal people.
It’s just that they tend to fly private instead of commercial, stay at very nice luxury hotels unique to that particular location rather than the chains you’ve heard of. They have multiple homes. They’re members of clubs that require a lot more money to keep up in. They have lots of paid staff, both seen and unseen, smoothing over their day to day lives, washing dishes and laundry, maintaining houses and cars and landscaping, making reservations and doing paperwork on their behalf, etc.
The form of stealth wealth isn’t that they’re all among us doing normal things, with no obvious indicators of wealth. It’s that they often aren’t even around us to begin with. So the sheer amount of time that they’re around non-rich people, and actively interacting with non-rich people, may be a tiny portion of their time. Even if they do a lot of the same stuff we do, and go to a lot of the same places we do. They do it in ways that don’t necessarily interact with us directly.
That’s a fair take, vacations are for sure a place where the rich splurge, but at those status type hotels you will also find a lot of not rich but affluent folks as well so it’s harder to be sure just because you’re there that you’re interacting with a truly wealthy person.
Kinda depends on the price of the place, right? A $500/night hotel might have a few upper middle class folks on a splurge (a honeymoon, some kind of points-based play on their credit card, etc.). A $2000/night place filters out the merely rich and leaves only the ultra rich. And a $10,000/night place isn’t even accessible as a bucket list item for even the 1% but not 0.1% types.
If you’re hanging out at the pool or some kind of lounge reserved for hotel guests at a place like that, you’re gonna have a pretty high probability of running into money.
I have stayed at my share of 2k+ hotels and I can promise you not everyone at these is rich. It filters yes, but there are definitely aspiring people who aren’t good with their money there too.
I’ll defer to your personal experience, but when I walk into a place like that (usually as a guest of someone who is actually staying there) I’m always like “ok I don’t belong here.”
I make good money but also don’t think I’d physically be able to swing some of the spending required at places like that. Like, I just wouldn’t have the funds in my bank account.
HENRY?
High something Not Rich Yet — people who have a shit-ton of income but blow it all on whatever instead of hoarding it properly
High Earning Not Rich Yet
Read about cultural capital. The rich are nonchalant towards things that others have to adopt or learn. They are “naturally” adapted to it. Which means that they haven’t learned french, they absorbed it by living in France for some years. So they act as if it is nothing, it is just something they just do and know. They can easily spot someone who is striving to be one of them.
