Why or why not?
If so, would it depend on how they present or their assigned gender at birtb or something else?
(Edit: fixed AGAB to confuse less people. Sorry people.)
This is a question that’s been brought up irl recently (alongside whether I would date a trans woman) and the honest answer is I simply don’t know. I’d have to be presented with someone non-binary who I’m attracted to (and just as importantly, vice versa) to really form an opinion.
I lean towards probably not, but there’s been two occasions I’ve been surprised at my impression of non-AGAB, feminine presenting person. But two people vs. many more cis-women, so idk.
It is a pretty striking “well, this is new” experience when you’re not expecting it though. And it did get a warranty sold, that much I’ll admit.
I was never interested in dating anyone queer while I was looking. it’s not the kind of relationship I’m looking for. I more want a regular guy who wants to be the dad and who will likewise let me be the mom. new boyfriend is like that and we’re happily getting to know each other.
I wouldn’t rule it out. Would really depend on the person.
I don’t know why it would matter? If I’m attracted to them and they’re nice to me there’s no reason not to
I would but only if there’s no drama (their personality). Dont know what AGAB is but as long as we’re both focused on building our future together, sounds golden mate
AGAB = assigned gender at birth
Assigned Gender At Birth
I had to look it up too.
Yes.
I see two scenarios. One, they catfish me if they can pass for a regular straight man. How I react to this when I find out will depend a lot on their personality and how everything unfolded, but it’s very likely I’d be very angry about them lying.
The other scenario is one in which our personalities click really well, so well we would be besties. But the advances would theirs. Again, how I respond to these advances would vary a lot but if we already have that exceptional affinity then it’s likely to go well. I think looks would be important here, they don’t need to look masculine but they would need to have somewhat conventionally attractive features. I’m boring and limited like that, sorry.
I’m married to a non binary person.
How many times?
/s
Yeah, if we were into each other. How they present and their AGAB matching my own preferences would be a factor.
But at the end of the day, my “straightness” is just a convenient label. If someone gets voted in by the Tribunal (Heart, Mind, and Cock), all labels are ultimately superfluous.
Heart, mind and cock. Beautiful.
Blessed are we who serve Hemico.
HeMiCo, in all things. This is the way.
Well, that shorthand just made it into the lexicon
Can we make it a sect of Pastafarianism, or would that get too weird too fast, with the appendages and all? 🤷🏽♂️ Regardless, this notion’s got rhythm and it yearns to be shared with the world. 🤘🏼
If we got along and I found them attractive, sure.
Are they going to put up with me playing copious amounts of city building games, my weekly Dungeons & Dragons game, and never shutting up about Aztec history?
I’d be surprised if a straight dude would date a non-binary person with a dick. Less surprised but similarly with straight women and vaginas.
Depends if they have a pussy. In general most non-binary people I’ve met haven’t been particularly androgynous. Which is one of the reasons they confuse me.
But yeah if they’ve got the body type I enjoy and a good personality then sure. No way I could make a universal statement though.
Yep. There’s a general confusion between gender identity and gender expression, that’s why you “expect” non-binary to look androgynous. But indeed, a nonbinary can have a cisman-passing or a ciswoman-passing. I am non-binary and I “look like a man” and it causes me to be insulted or mocked when I go out with makeup or wearing a skirt.
But yeah basically all you need to understand is that gender identity does not have to match a gender expression.
Ok apparently I’m more ignorant than I thought lol thanks for explaining.
Depends more on their biological sex, not what they identify as.
That sounds like it would only work if the straight person can easily interpret the non-binary person as “basically like a cis man/woman just with different pronouns”, and the non-binary person either has the same set of genitals that you’d expect based on their appearance, or the straight person just doesn’t care about unexpected genitals, which seems rare.
But I’m bi, so I wouldn’t know.
I know plenty of gay women who are into gock, so why don’t straight men like gock?
Gock?
Gock is girl cock
Ah, thanks
Toxic masculinity, heteronormativity etc.
That makes sense, masculinity is the main thing straight men have that gay women don’t. And if it’s stopping them from enjoying themselves, it sounds toxic.
Some straight men do like gock.
My husband is one of them.
I hope you both have fun pegging him organic style
For better or worse, I’m a cis bisexual woman so the usual pegging is what we’ve got. I love the term “organic style pegging” though hahah
But he really does enjoy gock and he really is straight.
Lol, the whole ‘non-binary’ thing is so weird to me, since I like the lads and the lassies. As long as they tick the attractive boxes, like confident, smart, and being into me, it’s like getting a christmas morning present every time I wake up next to them.
It’s not well-defined or anything. It’s basically a wastebin kind of classification, as in ‘oh I’m not this or that, so i guess I’m non-binary’.
It also acts as a holding space for people who haven’t figured our who they want to be.
in my interactions iwth non-binary people, there are a lot of them who seem to be into that classification of themselves as some sort of ‘fighting the patriarchy’ or ‘refusing to be labeled’ type of teenage rebellion attitude stuff. also a lot of poly, alt, kink, etc lifestyle folks, at least on my dating apps.
“Unexpected genitals” sounds like you find them between their shoulder blades
Yes. If they look feminine and their AGAB is female and I find them attractive and enjoyable to be around. Relevant to your question - if they check the first two boxes, then while intellectually I can appreciate that they see themselves as not fitting into the traditional feminine category, my dick will disregard this and say “THAT LADY. WANT FUCK.” And if this person wants to use they/them pronouns and checks all my other boxes, then their nonbinary status is essentially irrelivant to my descision making process.
Maybe, idk. Probably if they would lean more to the masculine side.
I should add, that I do consider myself straight, but I would not 100% deny, that I Am maybe bisexual/pansexual.
