That I have to grieve a living mother. That I will never know how it feels like to have the warm embrace of a caring mom no matter how much I yearn for it. It has been sad but so liberating at the same time.
I’m sorry. I can relate - I have to grieve both living parents. My only advice is try to find a new loving family. You don’t need blood ties.
Members of the emotionally immature parents club, unite! Thank you for your kind words it has been very painful but at the same time friends and other people have showed up for me in ways beyond what I could imagine. I am determined to end the cycle of hurt and take on emotional intelligence.
I wish you a good life, may you find peace and happiness.
My parents are getting older and I just want to be a part of their life. I always pictured happy family get togethers when I was young. Ever since I got married my parents keep thinking everything my wife or her parents do is some weird political game and have up until this week tried to cut us out of their lives. This week he literally told me he doesn’t want to be a part of my life anymore.
I’m sad that I’m not even hartbroken anymore. I’m not done trying with them, I hope I never am, but I am taking a break from feeling anything about it.
I live in an area completely overtaken by data center construction. The environmental devastation all around me is deeply saddening. Add to that the main purpose is to put people out of work and to make it so people don’t have to think for themselves and it really feels like doomsday or something out of a Stanislaw Lem novel.
Do you have the ability to relocate? Not everyone can, but it’s worth considering if you have the option.
It would not be easy. This is family land going back over 200 years. There are also aging parents to care for who will never leave. We are still thinking about it though.
Would vandalism help your mental health?
I’m really sorry. I can’t imagine the helplessness of watching that happen around you.
Thank you. It is a nightmare.
My area has so many endemic and/or threatened invertebrates, and who knows how many have gone extinct. But no one cares. The land is clear cut and treated like shit while streams are dumping grounds. I wonder how much longer until it is all sterile.
My cousin’s been missing for a few years. Does not want to be found. Had mild paranoia as a kid, turned to an artistic career, used cannabis excessively to manage symptoms and workload, and it just excarbated her paranoia. Went off the deep-end, did not attend her dad’s funeral. Reached out to her several times, no contact. We grew up as twins almost.
I am so disconnected from my parents due to my lack of respect for them because of their political affiliation.
All the fucking animals are dying and we just keep making everything worse to make a handful of people obscenely wealthy.
Yeah but nothing else matters except the Epstein class getting richer. Because having billions upon billions is not enough for some reason.
It was never about the money, it was just a convenient way to ensure the lower classes got only the absolute minimum of what they needed to be useful, even if it cost them some comfort.
You’re pretty smart for the world’s dumbest man
I may have jumped the gun when I made the username, as I’m actually genuinely disabled.
Me too! Disabled high five!
Honestly, my cats. One of them has an enlarged heart and I worry she’s on her last legs. Shes 18. So shes no spring chicken. I just worry she’s going to die soon :(
She and her bro are my life. I have no friends and no family. I just sit at home all day. Do my cats are vey special to me. They are my reason for living. I’m sure my younger cat would find a new home, but my old lass would die at the shelter if I died :/
I have two adult children who I haven’t spoken to for almost eight years and, last I heard, want nothing to do with me.
The situation is complex, and I’m not completely innocent. From their perspective I’m a dogshit person and they’re better off without me in their lives. There are aspects of the situation they don’t know about, specifically the domestic abuse that I suffered at the hands of their mother, which she was very careful not to do in their presence. So all they know is how they saw me behaving, which was often pretty terrible, and whatever she’s told them, which I know isn’t the whole truth. It’s maddening how completely unfair the situation is but I’m hard pressed to think of a way to better it.
I check in on their social media every now and then. They seem happy. I don’t attempt to message them. I just go about my day with this quiet sadness in the background.
Damn I’m sorry
I have an awesome job at a telescope. I love it. It’s an industrial jobs and I get to work in a range of things from moving giant machinery with overheads cranes to repairing fiber on light collecting instruments. Last year a telescope operator quit and they created a temporary assignment because it would be too expensive for me to fill in at my hourly rate (though it’s already in my job duties), effectively to move me to salary. Management and university HR determined a salary and implemented it effective immediately without any good faith offer. By the time I realized how bad the salary was and complained about it, I lost 214 hours of overtime and $7500 dollars. I continued working the telescope operator position as hourly for the next few months until they assigned someone else (who doesn’t have the job duties). Their explanation? “We though you agreed” and “you worked an exempt job”. Terrible explanations for how this was legal. I’ve been borderline tolerating it but this week I left the telescope balling with tears in my eyes and crying because I can’t tolerate it anymore and likely won’t return to work because they have destroyed all my trust in management and the university. Such a small amount of money for them but a huge amount for me.
Depending on your location and labor laws, you need to go after them for stolen/lost wages. “We thought you agreed” is no excuse for wage theft and if thats not in writing and you have the time sheets for it, you may have a case if you have records.
If its in MA (just a guess because its a higher-ed job), their wage theft laws have teeth to the point I would have a new job lined up while you work with your lawyer.
I completelly just missed out on an era, seggregated to my room. Like, I didn’t get to hop on the Nintendo era craze and experience it while it was relevant, parties, everything wasted. Now literally everything that was familiar is dead or corrupted.
Today’s generations will never get to experience the things that I did: No calm days watching cartoons under your blanket, playing outside, fun toys, everything is enshitified, no hope for the future, institutions actively hate them and want them dead.
I guess I’m in the same place as 10 years ago, but with a job. Need to prep people for the worst.
I think about the good things that people do and are capable of doing, yet despite this the world seems like an irredeemable shithole and that we are living under a kakistocracy. I’m not saying any particular nation, but the overall trend across the world.
To use a simple example: there isn’t even one single nation that has banned factory farming. My comment isn’t specifically about animal ag, just that this was something that readily came to mind.
We (as a species) could do so much good, yet we are squandering it for the sake of greed, religion, hatred, spitefulness, or whatever else is driving people to be shitty.
I don’t think there’s any possibility of a good future. I’m an engineer and have worked in some high fields on some crazy stuff. I’ve watched millions of dollars just disappear in an instant, many times over. All completely unnecessary. This was hardware a decade ago. Now there’s 10x that going into software. Homelessness, hunger, poverty, across the globe, could have been eliminated a long time ago.
Homelessness, hunger, poverty, across the globe, could have been eliminated a long time ago.
My (top-level) comment touches on this. Our species has the capabilities to do immense good, yet we have thoroughly squandered it to satisfy the greed of a few.
Religion
The glorification of stupidifiction
Oooh you are soo edgyyyy
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When my wife and I were first married, my dad would ask us when we were going to have kids every time he visited.
At first we would tell him we didn’t know. Then after hearing the question a few dozen times, we started saying we decided not to have any kids.
For context, I’m the youngest in my family and he already had three granddaughters from my older brother and sister. My wife is the youngest in her family and her parents had no grandchildren (her oldest brother was killed by a drunk driver, and the other brother was a dickhead and his first wife was too smart to have kids with him). I know it was absolutely torturing her parents to hear us say we weren’t having kids.
We did have kids (three), but we did it on our schedule.
You might decide to have kids someday. You might not.
In your situation, I’d make up a story to explain why there were no kids that would embarrass them into never asking again. Or…if you can pull it off…just start crying and run off.
“I think one of us might be sterile or something. I keep peeing in her butt like they told me at school and she’s still not pregnant.”
I try not to. It’s so easy to allow myself to reflect on the fucking horrors of the world, but I know it doesn’t do any good.
I think one of the general things that gets me down is the absence of genuine truth in the media and in government. In some parts of the world bribery, corruption and greed are commonplace, but we were brought up in the West to believe that as a society we’re somehow more noble and honest. That there’s accountability and due process and controls in place that stop cronyism, and that the law is there to protect us from harm and injustice.
Of course, you just have to scratch the surface to see that it’s all a lie - it’s always been about money, greed and self-interest at the top, and so it remains.
So you got married when you were 20 and he was 40? Is that normal?
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