• doingthestuff@lemy.lol
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    12 days ago

    Whatever you are, everyone has preferences. I’d prefer to be younger and more attractive but I’d also prefer that in a partner even though I’m not that myself. I love the vibes of older people but not many older people have taken good care of their bodies. I get it, it is difficult.

  • Snot Flickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    13 days ago

    I’m not convinced that there’s anywhere near as many straight people as straight people pretend there are. It’s gotta be closer to like fifty-fifty split between straight and bi/pan/ace/and so on.

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      13 days ago

      I’m not even convinced we really managed to universally agree to uniform definition of what straight actually is. As long as that’s the case people, who want to be "normal“, will just stretch and twist the definitions to fit in, if they can fit in that way.

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          That would imply at least 30% is bi/pan.

          And even at 80%, early humans already had it really rough. There seems to have been 2 near extinctions of modern humans in the far past, so when the population is about 1000, having 200 not contribute is pretty big. Especially with the higher mortality rates early humans had in regards to birth.

          It’s more likely the percentage started extremely low and increased over time as population stability increased, since then it would reach a point where 10-20% not having kids wouldn’t be as big a deal since there would now be hundreds of thousands or even over a million.

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            Honestly it’s weird how adamant people are there have always been people who solely preferred one sex over the other. While it’s generally true for modern society, people wouldn’t have even understood what you mean in ancient times by “sexual orientation”, really. I mean you could obviously explain it and people could answer to a degree, but…

            Well, think of this, we have left and right in our languages. We all know those are relative terms. My left and your left are different, most of the time. Anyway, there exists a tribe who don’t have relative words for directions, and they only use cardinal directions, all the time. As in if they’re hanging a painting, they’d say “no, no, a bit to the north” instead of “left”. On a tangent, it makes them very much immune to getting lost as they have incredible sense of direction for that reason. My point being that to us it’s simple that you just use left and right, why wouldn’t you, when people know what it means and it’s simple. So why doesn’t that tribe use them? Idk, it’s just not in their culture. Just like such strict classifications of sexual orientation weren’t much of a thing in ancient and prehistoric times.

            Bill And The Romans Talk About Sexuality | The Eaters Of Light | Doctor Who

            Cornelius: Yeah, don’t worry, Bill, Lucius will look after you.

            Lucius: Shut up, Cornelius!

            Bill: Ahh, Lucius, erm, right, listen there’s, erm, something I should explain.

            Lucius: What?

            Bill: This is probably just a really difficult idea. I don’t like men that way.

            Lucius: What? Not ever?

            Bill: Nah, not ever. Only women.

            Nah…not ever.

            Lucius: Oh. Alright, yeah, I’ve got it. You’re like Vitus then.

            Bill: What?

            Lucius: He only likes men.

            Vitus: Some men. Better looking men than you, Lucius.

            Lucius: I don’t think it’s narrow-minded, I think it’s fine. You know what you like.

            Bill: And you like both?

            Lucius: I’m just ordinary, I like men and women.

    • GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      13 days ago

      I struggle to believe that anyone is 100.00% straight or gay. Like, really? You’re straight, sure… But there’s not one person? One situation? One perfect storm of circumstances where you’d try swinging the other way just a little bit?

    • MTZ@lemmy.worldOP
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      Sexuality exists on a spectrum, imo. There are a few people who are totally straight, a few who are totally gay, but the vast majority fall somewhere in the middle. I do not feel that sexuality is a binary for most people. Of course, I could be completely wrong. I’m no scientist.

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        13 days ago

        I know everyone says it, but labels are pretty useless.

        Even terms like “masculine” and “feminine” hold so much dumb baggage they’re both functionally useless.

        I know guys who want to be subservient to pretty girls, and girls who want stocky girls to dominate them.

        Sexuality doesn’t fit neatly into boxes, even in the best of circumstances - so much of it is contextual, and is pointless to attempt to pin down.

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          Labels are just succinct words/phrases that try to give people some approximate idea of where we fall on a handful of vast spectrums. They’re not meant to be 100% accurate.

          I’m probably pansexual, but I tell people I’m bi because that’s a word most people are familiar with. And even then I’m like 80-90% into women. So I don’t really fit neatly into the bisexual box, but that label conveys enough relevant information.

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          No, I’m his Mexican half brother, twice removed. I’m José Colorado. Nice to meet you!

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      13 days ago

      Similar.

      Charlie Sheen said that he didn’t pay women for sex. He paid them to have sex and then leave.

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        That actually kinda makes sense though. He was saying he didn’t want a relationship, just the sex part. I’m sure Charlie Sheen would have no problem finding people to have sex with that didn’t require payment, they would just expect a relationship as part of it.

        As opposed to other dude, who just was gay and was trying to sound like he wasn’t gay.

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          A comedienne is a lady comic. She is saying she wants men but doesn’t find them attractive, which as a straight lady, makes absolute sense to me. Especially as I get older I wish I was bi, women age better (or more women age well is probably a better way to put it), and it would be easier in some ways. But alas, it’s men for me.

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            One of the few funny ‘Cathy’ cartoons ever.

            Cathy and Irving are talking and Irving asks Cathy what she wants in a man. He has to be a self-made millionaire; who is not materialistic. He has to love pets; he can’t own any. He can’t be afraid of commitment; he can’t have any exes.

            Irving goes off. He points out that what she wants is impossible.

            Cathy asks Irving what he wants.

            “A beautiful virgin who loves sex.”