I cook at home because of restaurant prices and tip culture. Driving everywhere sucks. Everything feels miles away so good luck walking.

      • Mac@mander.xyzEnglish
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        6 months ago

        Lots of people do. Do you not? Would you like help brainstorming some? Even small, individual hobbies, for when you have no energy or motivation, are highly valuable for a person’s mental landscape.

  • MinnesotaGoddam@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    Fuck if I know. I volunteer. I joined a community choir. I am mildly social at the coffee shop. There’s a local bar/restaurant with picnic table seating and the culture is you can talk with anyone you are seated by as long as you’re civil. People still go to churches. There’s PTAs and stuff for your kids. Just a few ideas.

  • IWW4@lemmy.zip
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    6 months ago

    I can only answer this based on what I did.

    After college I joined the Army. it is easier to meet people in the Army than it is in college. The army was wild. The days last forever but the weeks go by quick. In the army it is not uncommon to meet someone and by the end of the day they are the best friend you ever had and two weeks later you don’t see them again.

    After the Army I settled in a suburban area started working a civilian job and raised my family. I met my best friend as he lived two doors down from us and his two kids were one year younger and one year older than my kid, so we were the two dads watching over the kids in the neighborhood.

    From there we started lifting weights together, taking our families to football games and having cookouts together. We also had other families in the neighborhood come and go.

    I also made friends through work. I worked in IT so it was a fun job and the people I worked with were great.

    The most important thing is proximity.

    • ameancow@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      6 months ago

      While I get the sentiment about comradery and connection through the focused goals, intense time investment and hardships that military training gives you… I think I’m going to recommend people find ways to connect that don’t lead to potentially murdering Iranians or getting murdered by drones in the wreckage of Tehran or wherever we decide to “freedom” next.

  • Apytele@sh.itjust.works
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    6 months ago

    Meet people: hobby or spiritual community are the two big ones most people meet a partner at. Look up cheap hobbies in particular something like a walking club.

    Cheap places to take a girl:

    • fish around in conversations for her favorite food. Pick the prettiest spot within walking distance. Pick somewhere out of the way but visible to passerby like the edge of a park. Check the calendar for favorable weather. Bring a blanket, that favorite food, and anything needed to make the environment comfy like an umbrella.

    • if it’s just not the time of year for favorable weather book a library or community center presentation room and in addition to food fish around in convos for a favorite movie. Still bring a large blanket and push the tables and wheely chairs out of the way.

    Any partner who finds effort over cash undesirable is just not a good fit for your life right now.

    • Randomgal@lemmy.ca
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      6 months ago

      Coming off as TOO effortful will also count against you. Normal people don’t go all out for someone they just met or are just starting to meet.

      These are good second date ideas. Might want to keep it simple at first.

  • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    Get a hobby, go to events, find social circles, and drink at the sort of bars you can chat with strangers at.

    I met my wife at a dungeon, but I know that’s not to most people’s tastes.

    • TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      6 months ago

      Hey, I’ve also made long term friends from underground raves/sex dungeons. It’s a totally valid way to make friends. Like so many other methods, you already have a shared interest, that’s a springboard to explore if you’re otherwise compatible as buddies.

  • quick_snail@feddit.nl
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    6 months ago

    Sell the car. Move into a tiny 3br apartment with roommates in a walkable city.

    Date your roommate’s friends. They’ll date yours.

    Change roommates occasionally.

  • blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works
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    6 months ago

    Imagine finding the perfect partner, getting married, moving in together etc.

    Now that you’re married and that’s all settled, where do the two of you go for fun? Where do the two of you go to get out of the house?

    Go there.

  • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    You talk to them.

    It’s that simple. But you have to do it. They aren’t going to talk to you. Especially if you are a single male.

  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    I really only meet people through work.

    And most all of my rare social events are with friends I’ve had for 30 years.

  • Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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    6 months ago

    Become a regular at the third space of your choice. Like minded people that attend the same things repeatedly tend to click.

  • Modern_medicine_isnt@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    Coed recreational sports team. Lots of them are mostly social with a little bit of sports tossed in. And almost all of them are looking for more players.

    • unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de
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      6 months ago

      Bouldering is the goat sport for this. Lots of little downtime in between routes which leaves room for talking. But you also always have something to talk about and compliment etc.