Not playing football, or being interested it it at all.
Transitioning.
Tattoos.
Joining the Fediverse
What kind of tattoos?
Fuck yeah ShadowRun!
I started playing in 1989, I’ve played every edition and even got published in a couple of the sourcebooks, so it was a good choice for a tattoo :)
I had a friend tweak it though so people who know Shadowrun will recognise it, but it doesn’t look like a logo to people who don’t recognise it
Loving the birds on the boobs, you were smart to keep them off to one side!
i think theyre bats!
What molecule is the flower one? That looks sick
Estrogen!
Body only wants big black tattoos and oestrogen, got it!
That sucks, but if you can only have one color tattoo that seems like the perfect choice even if you didn’t know that going in lol
I’m not normally a fan of tattoos (pretty ambivalent overall) but I really like that one and the added meaning for anyone more up to date on their ochem than I am is even cooler 😂
Oh lordy yes, tattoos … my mother drilled it into me when I was a kid that only prostitutes had tattoos, and I took that negativity on board in a weird way.
I got my first tattoo a couple of years after I’d finished doing regular sex work
Not wanting kids.
Cons: you don’t know what you’re missing
Pros: you don’t know what you’re not missing
I don’t begrudge anyone not wanting kids. It’s not for everyone.
That said, my first thought when I saw the post title was “I don’t regret having kids”.
I suppose the caveat is that my twins are only 2 and a half, I may well regret having kids when they start getting pregnant, selling drugs, marrying chat bots, that sort of thing.
Edit: I just scrolled through some of the other comments and noticed that the majority of them say that they don’t regret not having kids. The fediverse is pretty homogenous I guess.
Were you told you would regret having your kids? That’s wild.
It’s a lot more common for people to be told that they will regret not having kids, than being told they’ll regret having them… so I think the similarities in the responses is quite natural, dont you? Not a lot of parents can answer this post with their kids in mind, but pretty much every voluntarily childless person can.
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It’s just so rude to say someone will regret their choice regarding kids… BIL is free to make that choice for himself, and more than welcome to keep his mouth shut on your choice.
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It’s a lot more common for people to be told that they will regret not having kids, than being told they’ll regret having them
That’s not my experience, at all.
When I was in my 20s plenty of older guys would tell me not to have kids. Admittedly, these were the older weirdos hanging out at bars, but the source of the advice isn’t really in question right now.
Every single voluntarily childless person I’ve spoken to have had the experience of being told they’ll regret it.
I can only recall two people being told they’d regret their decision to have kids… and they were both teenagers, so even though I don’t agree with saying something like that, I can understand the sentiment of wanting them to wait a few years.
Seems we life in very different worlds.
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In my own case, it’s certainly been one of my life’s great adventures. The most meaningful thing I’ve ever done.
Not having kids, every time I have any remorse I spend some time around kids and their parents, in about 5 minutes I’m good
I love kids, but I have never felt a want for them.
This is an interesting nuance. I find most children annoying, and I don’t want any of my own, but the love I have for my niece and nephew is bigger than I ever could have imagined.
I guess there’s always room for exceptions.
There is truth in the saying “you won’t understand until you have your own”. The love I feel for my kids are like nothing else and nothing before it.
With that said, I’d never tell someone they would regret not having kids. As much as I love them, they take ALL my time and then some. It is a very big investment of your time (years) and if you don’t want that, that’s cool.
I hadn’t planned on kids or marriage. I’m so thankful to have both.
I’m in the same boat, except I’ve never felt any kind of remorse. How often do you feel it?
Same here, having watched how the lives of my friends who had kids changed reaffirmed the decision of not having any for me. You basically have to be prepared to dedicate next couple of decades of our life to raising kids and not doing much of anything else. And you end up giving up the freedom to do things like move to a different town or try a new career. Your primary goal in life becomes having stable income to raise your kids.
The whole “not much of anything else” mellows out as they get older, and you can even share those interests with your kids. I loved the whole process of going to amusement parks with my daughter, watching her go from enjoying but also being terrified of the small ones, to getting used to those but doing the same for the medium ones, being nervous about going upside down, then seeing it wasn’t such a big deal and now loving the big ones as much as I do and we got to experience the most intense one I’ve ever ridden for the first time together.
Yeah, and nothing wrong with that if it’s the sort of thing you enjoy doing.
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No one has told me I would regret that but so far living like that is great.
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This is the mantra of the family I married to. Sometimes a little too much.
Still love them though:)
A variation of this that I realized fairly recently is that striving for excellence doesn’t mean the journey towards it is garbage. I can both feel pride in what I’ve done while also acknowledging where it could have been better with the intent to either circle back and do it better in the future (for like house projects) or avoid that mistake next time (for creations).
Like I did a cross stitch of a wolf and it skewed a bit because it had a lot of half-stitching (without going into too much detail, a full cross stitch equalizes the forces the threads put on the canvas while a half-stitch puts an uneven force on it). So for my current one, I got hoops that I previously didn’t think I needed, which hold the canvas in place outside so the threads are less likely to put a high force where they are.
And my next one will involve a better ordering strategy because my fairly random approach caused some areas of the canvas to bunch up more than others. Less noticeable than the wolf’s skew, but still a flaw I’d like to fix going forward but I’m not beating myself up about the current one.
Assuming this is even relevant to the context you mean lol.
This. 100 times this.
That’s a damn good answer.
Not having kids. I have hobbies, and money/time for them.
One of the previous popes called childless couples selfish. I say a never-married 70-year old operating the world’s largest paedophile welfare programme has nothing to say to me about child-rearing.
Spending time playing video games. I enjoyed every minute and I didn’t miss out on much.
not having kids. I still think it was the right decision for me
Cannabis.
Becoming atheist
In my 5th birthday my parents threw a party for me with friends from kindergarten. My father had a pretty good camera for the time and loved taking photos. This was during analog times, way before digital cameras, so you wouldn’t just take a bunch of photos because it got expensive. He wanted to take a group photo and I, always being a little annoyed back then with the constant photos, stuck out my tongue. He tried to make me smile but I refused. So he told me he’d take the photo of me sticking out my tongue and I’d regret it when I’m an adult that I don’t have a nice photo of me on my 5th birthday. I’m 40 and I don’t regret it. Love that photo.
When I was a kid I went through the boxes that held all the family photos and threw away the ones of me, there is now very little physical evidence I existed at all up in till the mid 90s.
“stop wasting time with that Linux thing. Nobody will ever hire you unless you specialize in Windows”
Linux has done far more for me professionally than being a Windows engineer ever got me, and it repeatedly keeps being proven.
Ymmv depending on where you are. I was happily employed in the Unix space until I moved to Seattle.
I’ve been running some Linux servers for fun, at my last job we also had quite a few. The only admin quit, no documentation. Guess who got a big salary increase because he was the only one with the knowledge required to keep this shitshow running? Yep, that’s me.
Thanks to past me for installing every distro under the sun and sinking years into the commandline, shell scripting, web and mail servers just for the thrill. Linux is awesome.
Wish I could say the same, so far Linux knowledge seems to have done very little for me as far as employment goes. I have used it at work before but normally it isn’t something anyone else seems to care about. At least my limited knowledge of Windows hasn’t been too significant of a problem so far either.
I was told I would regret not enjoying and living up high school. To this day, still do not regret doing more with my shitty life in high school. College? Yeah, probably. High school? Nah
Not making sport. My mum told me im gonna get fat like my dad but im still thin
Having kids. Maybe it is just communities I am in, however I fealt whole internet is against having kids.
It was the best decision I ever made!
Indeed! Good for you ignoring the doomers!
Kids are an absolute blessing. Like a bunch of best friend mini-me’s to enjoy life with.
Some say it’s unethical to bring kids into this world, yet they don’t seem to be in any rush to leave it themselves.
Plus humanity and life have faced difficult situations before. None of this would have existed if they had instead just given up and said “this is too hard for kids to handle”.
Are you seriously suggesting that people who don’t want to bring kids into a world where they don’t see a path towards ensuring their well-being…should kill themselves if they’re serious about it?
They’re anything bus serious, but that does appear to be what they’re suggesting, yes. Typical pronatalist nonsense.
No, I’m saying the ones who say it’s evil to bring kids into this world are hypocrites if they themselves want to keep existing in this world but think a child couldn’t possibly want to exist in it.
Like anti-natalist, not just child free. I don’t think anyone has a duty to have kids and think not wanting kids is a great reason to not have them. I even disagree with doctors who refuse to sterilize people who would rather remove that possibility than keep the risk (and think the doctors should be shielded from any consequences when a patient later regrets that decision). I’d also call it fair if you said some people have no business having kids.
But there’s some people online who take that position to the next level and say that anyone having kids these days is wrong to do so.
It’s pathetic, considering how existence itself was a struggle for the past 3 billion years, then gets easier over the last like 100k, and now there’s new challenges and anti-natalists want us to just give up because it is hard?
And inconsistent because they don’t want to give up themselves, but want everyone else to not give future generations a chance.
And I didn’t say they should kill themselves, but if they believe existence is so painful and hopeless that creating new life is wrong, why haven’t they? Though that “if they are serious about it” is the crux of my position: I believe they are being dramatic or overcompensating for those other assholes that insist having kids is our only purpose and that everyone should have them and gets in their business about not wanting kids themselves.
I also believe that kids born during a collapse will probably have an easier time handling it (emotionally) than those of us who got used to life before a collapse. It’s just hard to say if that will apply to kids born soon or if it won’t be the case for some decades yet.
Well, now that I’ve got the long and short of it, what you’re saying makes sense. Thanks for expanding. I didn’t have that context.
I don’t have any disagreements. I think a decision like whether or not to have children is ultimately up to the individuals making the children. I do think there are many oft overlooked factors that can make having kids unethical, but I’m drawing my line well before suggesting having kids is always evil. That thought heavily implies that humanity itself is unethical and should be ended, and I say it’s not our place to decide that (though we could obviously stand to be so much better than we are now).
I appreciate the food for thought. Cheers.
