• WanderingThoughts@europe.pub
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    30 days ago

    A guy I know complained they kept talking English to him, although he was native. I told him to ditch the raincoat and shave the stubble. I mean, the guy dressed like a stereotype.

  • Stupidmanager@lemmy.world
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    30 days ago

    I was just in Bordeaux. Not a single issue with my weak French and I’d almost always get a reply in French. I promise I am nowhere near fluent, maybe A2 level.

    But in Paris, nearly every reply was in English and even if I replied back in French I’d get that look “please stop butchering my language” before they’d reply in English. It’s a running joke now, but I really question if it’s just parisons being assholes or maybe they just want to practice.

    Ps. Never had this issue with Italian. My accent is almost Roman too and I’m again, not fluent.

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      30 days ago

      As an American I’d just be happy you’re trying. The fact that you try to speak a native language IMO shows respect, even if it isn’t that good. You care enough to try.

    • NottaLottaOcelot@lemmy.ca
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      29 days ago

      I haven’t had issues in Paris, but it might help that I often apologize for my French in advance. I’m Canadian and clearly have learned a different accent, but most people I encountered were quite eager to help me practice.

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        29 days ago

        True, but so do the Bordeaulais

        Source: wife is parisien, but her family are al Bordeaulais

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          29 days ago

          Never been to Bordeaux so didn’t know about the reputation. As a foreigner I always had the impression in France that the more you go south the nicer they are (my own lived experience, due to circumstances I live in the Occitanie).

      • The_v@lemmy.world
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        30 days ago

        I spent way to many years traveling to France for business and spending several weeks there at a time. I don’t speak French of course as I studied a bit of Spanish. When there as a foreigner you generally get either pleasant and wonderful people or snobbish assholes.

        Parisians lean more towards assholes though I met many wonderful people there. It’s more of a disdainful bored attitude without much bite. They know tourism is necessary for their jobs but dealing with tourism is a pain the ass. This interaction pretty much sums it up.

        When you are outside of Paris the reactions get more extreme. I got some of the best and worst reactions when I was in smaller cities like Nantes or Lyon.

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      29 days ago

      I had a good friend from France who informed me that Parisians are just arseholes lmao

    • ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net
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      29 days ago

      From my experience in Spain, if you don’t speak Spanish and they don’t speak English they will still try to help you. In the store they may just show you how much you have to pay on the screen. In other places they will quickly open google translate and use that.

      In France they just stare at you and make 0 effort to help. Best they can do is just repeat it in French again.

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      29 days ago

      I’d just keep speaking French to fuck with them. Two can play at that game. I can’t speak French, though.

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      1 month ago

      I’ve done it, with a québécois accent, and the fucker still answered me in English. And she was supper polite too. I asked to confirm that I could park my car in the street next to the hotel and she said “I don’t know, I don’t have a car.”

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        30 days ago

        “I don’t know, I don’t have a car.”

        This killed me. I can literally see her face.

      • Miaou@jlai.lu
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        29 days ago

        Did you say “parker mon char” because that’d sound like English to us ;)

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    30 days ago

    Saw this very thing in an article today. It was said it was the “American lean”. Apparently we lean on things when chilling and that’s very American.

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    1 month ago

    Damn, Paris has changed a lot. In my days you could talk in basically any language, living or dead, to a Parisian and they would understand every single word. And they’d still only answer in French.

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      30 days ago

      Yeah, that was what I was thinking. There’s no way a French person spoke in English of their own volition

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        28 days ago

        I always found it pretty easy - just start speaking french with an English accent and they’ll start speaking English just to make you stop.

    • evasive_chimpanzee@lemmy.world
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      1 month ago

      Tbh, I tend to do that sometimes. The number of languages I can somewhat understand outnumbers the number of languages I can attempt to speak.

      Especially when it comes to reading: it’s a lot easier to see a bunch of cognates and understand the jist of the sentence than it is to come up with those words and conjugate, order, and pronounce them correctly.

      On multiple occasions, I’ve tried to use my limited knowledge to order food or something in another language, only to have the person on the other side look at me confused until I restate myself in English.

      I like to think of it like Star Wars where everyone just speaks and responds in their own language.

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        1 month ago

        That’s actually a legit technique to improve your understanding in a language. They speak theirs, you speak yours. It does depend on both people having a good understanding of each other’s languages though.

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        30 days ago

        Kind of the opposite for me but ONLY with ordering food in Spanish - I speak awful Spanish, can read it better than speaking or listening, but food - all my life, foods here are labeled in English and Spanish, and often I order so confidently that the person at the counter thinks I only speak Spanish. In absolutely no other situation would anyone mistake me for fluent. It helps that Spanish is so phonetic, and that in the US there are people from so many different places there isn’t one accent.

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          29 days ago

          Pls wash your hands after going to the toilet when you eat in a public place.

        • The Picard Maneuver@lemmy.worldOP
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          1 month ago

          I’ve heard it described similarly. In much of the US, it’s pretty normal to smile or nod at someone you’re passing as an acknowledgement. But in cultures that aren’t accustomed to that, I’ve heard it feels like if someone walked up to your car at a red light and knocked on your window just to say hi.

        • pelespirit@sh.itjust.works
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          The directness one cracks me up. Is that where the word ‘frank’ comes from? Also, ime, they’re pretty direct when no one asked.

          The second reason we might think the French are not nice is because of their direct communication.

          Ah, the famous French frankness! Unlike some cultures where things are left unsaid and hints prevail, the French often prefer to say things as they are. This transparency aims to prevent misunderstandings, but it can be surprising, even shocking. But believe it or not, it’s often done in a spirit of clarity and mutual respect. After all, why waste time guessing what the other person is thinking?

          So, don’t be surprised if a French person speaks directly to you and doesn’t tiptoe around you.

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      30 days ago

      When I was in Italy I felt like lieutenant Aldo Rains. Italy was the only place I actually struggled because English was far less common, and when I was in France for a day I had a near fluent linguist with me. I can speak a little German but never had to.

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    1 month ago

    It must be a paris thing, I went to Lyon and obviously hit up a bakery near my friend’s place. I did pointing & grunting and extremely basic french.

    I did not enjoy the random fish danish I ended up eating since I fucking hate fish.

    Merci beaucoup.

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    29 days ago

    I had a couple of interactions like this while in Italy recently. I’d not even opened my mouth and the person responds in English. I specifically selected clothes that don’t have any text on them, but I strongly suspect it’s because I’m white as fuck and look as Midwestern American as one can.

    I didn’t have any trouble though, most of the Italians I spoke with seemed happy that I’ve been trying to learn their language and were happy to talk in a mix of Italian and English to meet me where my Italian level was. It was interesting comparing how in the touristy areas of Italy many folks spoke such perfect English they’d lost most accent (or perhaps were themselves transplants) but once I got out of the touristy areas folks were willing to work with my limited Italian

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    29 days ago

    French guy here, It’s always the accent. You think you don’t have one, but you do, and when it’s not the accent it’s a confusion about grammar or the gender of a word.

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      29 days ago

      The French was probably too perfect. Shoulda been:

      “Je prends uhhhh deeeeux…deux croissants”. 90% of the French people I know can barely get two words out without a “uhh” or “beuh”.

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        28 days ago

        Nobody talks without interferences such as “euh”, “erm”, “like”, etc, because in real life people don’t read lines like actors, they talk as they think. In your example, the person is obviously hesitating about what to order.

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          28 days ago

          For sure, but it’s the rate at which the French use them which always blows me away. And I know I shouldn’t have to say this, and I know it will be ignored anyway, but yes obviously this isn’t every single French person.

          I remember a specifically bad example from a person who was, if I remember correctly, introducing their website where they would speak in French and you could listen for practice. Great, sounds good. Except! I couldn’t follow them because they couldn’t pass three words, maximum, without a “uhh”, “beuhh”, or “eeeuhhh”. It was an extreme example, but I think about it all the time.

          It all reeks of trying way too hard to hard to convince everyone how laid back they are but they’re some of the most stressed out people I know. I have to wonder if it’s the fact that I live in Montréal so we get a fair number of Parisien.nes here.