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its happened a few times in my life so i dont have an exact quote. i always wanted to be a part of something bigger than myself, be on a team, make something with my friends, help someone with their dream, whatever. i was basically told “you have no skills and no ability to help, so you would only get in the way”. it hurt so much to be deliberately excluded by people who i thought were my friends, to be told im worthless to them, im incapable of helping them. after a few of those i cant even bring myself to offer anymore, and no one ever asks. part of me doesnt see the point of living if this is how people see me.
This reminds me of my situation. I had always had an interest in investing and was interested in starting a business. So I spent a lot of time during my youth trying to get my family onboard. They never took an interest until it served my parent’s needs. In 2012 my dad got himself fired and decided to take early retirement.
I suggested a real estate business to replace his income with rental income. I offered to move back home with my partner who was also down with a real estate business. The rents agreed and we made the move back to wonderful Wisconsin. Over the course of two years I found and set them up with a very lucrative stream of rental income in a still booming housing market. Then they decided my partner and I were no longer doing enough or working hard enough and they cut us entirely out of the business.
Anyway I don’t talk to them anymore. Hope things are turning around for you.
do pretend we have class solidarity you fucking leech
Learning how to take advice from people you hate is a valuable skill. Be discerning, obviously, but coherent perspectives different to your own can offer a lot of value, regardless of your feelings towards that person.
I am sorry this has been your experience. You need to find better friends.
You have to work to make a living.
When I came back home from the hospital after my amputation, my wife of 30 years told me she didn’t sign up for this, packed up her things and left.
I mean it’s right there, “for riches and in health, till inconvenience do you part”.
Yeah, health. Not disease or amputation. It isn’t covered by the contract. You need the premium plan marriage package for that.
It makes you wonder what she thought she signed up for.
Till death do us part… except
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“Aaand just sign the amputation clause here right at the bottom. That’s it! You are now husband and wife!”
Covered under “in sickness and in health”
My best friend got cheated on and dumped after he got diagnosed with epilepsy. It took a year of fits (one in which he screwed up his back) to get the diagnosis, and it basically meant he had to abandon his career path of working in the police force as a detective and forensic analyst and switch to something different.
It also doesn’t help that they both got sacked from a call centre whilst this was going on.
As if you signed up for an amputation. What is wrong with people!?
PackeD HER things ? IM CONFUSED…
what were you expecting? she packed his things and then left?
Lol I’m an idiot… I’m my head he left… so was very confused why he took her things…😂😂😂
Nice of her to pack my things I guess but now I have to unpack them again. Kind of redundant if you ask me but it’s a nice gesture.
WOOF! What?! Holy fucking shit. I am sorry bro. THIRTY YEARS? No way. I’m sorry but I even find that a bit hard to believe.
This happens more than people want to admit, and it can be sudden after a period of support. Like someone gets cancer and their SO sticks by their side until it gets stage 4, things get really messy and hard, and suddenly they’re off starting a new life. My SO is a therapist and has seen it firsthand, it’s gruesome and cruel.
Motherfuckers starting second lives behind their spouses back and here I can’t find a fucking bridge partner.
Wow. Im sorry you encountered this.
While thankfully I have had nothing amputated (yet… but im diabetic), ive noticed that each of several partners over the years has just been abominable at showing empathy.
For example, if I tried to tell my current SO that im feeling a bit down she would absolutely get the shits with me and tell me how shitty her life is.
Theres something about kicking a dog when its down that some people just cant restrain themselves.
In hind sight, would it have been helpful for your partner to give you a few months to recover before leaving?
If your SO can’t show empathy, that’s a good indicator they aren’t a good choice for a long term relationship.
Wow thats so insightful. Amazing. You should write a book or something. Boom.
Nvm, you deserve them.
Ooh sick burn. Im devastated.
I have a bit of a story to tell about this particular question.
It’s a question I asked of myself.
Brought on by my sister calling child protective services on me after my wife died. She left me. With four children, and I was in mourning and not dealing well.
It led me the ask the most painful question of myself. Am I a good father?
The answer was no.
I wasn’t a good father. And I’m glad she made that call. It woke me up, and I changed everything around. Or at least, I hope so.
How long ago was this, and how are things today? Username doesn’t check out, I hope?
It was 15 years ago. It all worked out well. My kids grew up, well adjusted and loved, and we talk all the time. We’ve talked through what happened as well.
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Depends on the kind of crack. Maybe he’s a plumber.
I don’t love you and I don’t believe you that you love me.
It was two occasions about eight years apart. One was Mom calling to tell me Dad died, the other was my brother calling me about Mom.
Sorry for your loss, whenever it was. It’s never easy.
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Damn straight.
I used to compete in an annual competition in high school, one year I got 4th, the next third. You needed first to progress to national level.
A friend of my teacher said “when do you just shoot the horse” right in front of me.
Thankfully I never saw that guy again, but Jesus, what an asshole. That was the last year I did that competition.
I’m so lost. I feel like I’m missing something obvious here. Are you the horse? What does this mean?
Probably a horse shooting competition
Yeah, he was saying how many times do I have to lose before they stop sending me to the competition.
What the fuck? Were there so few participants that 3rd was a bad result? High school has four years, right? 4th, 3rd, 2nd, 1st place, seems to me you were on track.
No, it was a province wide competition, and I worked really hard to prep. Top 3 was very good.
The first place people were always awesome.
Oh shit! That’s absolutely brutal.
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What an absolutely awful attitude to have around children. Forget celebrating all you achieved, or the fact that you’re clearly improving, it wasn’t good enough after two attempts so just give up forever.
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I’m leaving you.
:/
You better now?
I am. Thanks for asking.
No worries. I get it. I mean not really. But kind of. A different kind of, but you know.
I know. I’m 60 years old. It’s happened a few times both ways. I’m not sure it hurts any less, butaybe if feelsess personal as you get older.
“When we got together you were skinny and your hair was long.” After a long conversation about my looks changing over time. It should not be shocking that he, too, aged. Anyway yeah he left me for someone ten years younger…
“This won’t hurt a bit.”
I heard something similar to that right before I found out local anesthetic doesn’t work on me.
found the redhead!
My wife told me her cancer had moved to her brain. 22 days later through an unimaginable amount of pain and anguish she passed away.
I dont think anyone could possibly tell me anything that could hurt worse than that. (No fault of her own obviously.)
You’re not a person, just a lump of flesh with eyes. My teacher, when I was eleven
That my mom’s cancer was terminal.
My father and I already weren’t speaking and we all knew that it was coming. But I was in my early 20s and not ready to not have parents anymore. We’d also always been super close.
I survived, she obviously didn’t, and most people are fortunate enough to outlive their parents these days. But it’s brutal to lose a loved one decades early.
