• Aniki@feddit.org
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    i still wouldn’t though. growing up in a house, i know its downsides. rural area, no public transport, social isolation, no friends. i’d rather live in an apartment in the city.

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    I wasn’t diagnosed until 30, I could have probably had a degree at least. Mean I got halfway back in the day but yeah. High school was so easy I barely had to study, also didn’t help with the work ethic for later. Nowadays I take random online courses sometimes just to learn new stuff. Plus it helps I’m too old to party but is that a factor? I’ll never know. Mm

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      Ya I got it just in time for my second try at an associates degree and low and behold I got straight A’s this time around. It was a wild difference from my first attempt where I fucked off too hard and dropped out. And now I’m like you and I just learn stuff for fun on the internet.

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      I guess I may have jumped the gun in getting my kids diagnosed/prescribed. One responded well, the other not so much.

      I was just trying to prevent more misery, divorces, struggle, etc, honest!

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        I am angry at my parents for putting me on such strong drugs as a child. It gave me serious emotional issues (constant anger and depression) that they completely overlooked because my grades were improving. My parents should have arranged other forms of help for me. Medication is not enough and medication with no other support is harmful to a child, at least it was in my case. People with ADHD need therapy to help them develop methods for regulating their emotions and building executive function.

        I’m not saying get your kids off the extremely potent controlled substances, I’m just saying really think about it. Don’t make the mistakes my parents made. It’s impossible to know how much the drugs contributed, but I can tell you that I’ve lived my life in absolute agony with a near total immunity to any form of joy or pleasure. I was robbed of my natural brain development.

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          They’re not on them anymore. As soon as he said it was making him feel bad, I stopped it. That’s been several years ago now.

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      Your mental health anecdote is not representative of everyone.

      An untold number of people are untreated for mental health as youths, with life-long ramifications. To handwave the idea that some children were let down by society because you got treatment and it didn’t magically make you a success is selfish.

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      Yeah I may have gotten adhd meds as a kid, but my mental health issues still weren’t really dealt with until adulthood and I am still a millennial. The Adderall just means I have a college degree and didn’t die in a car crash

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    I have been assured that I was “smart” but “lazy” when I was six 😡 .

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      Every parent/teacher evening contained a variety of “He’s got the ideas in his head, but won’t put them down on paper”, but I wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD until I was 39.

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      Ah yes. I too should have applied myself more. So they kept saying. Repeatedly.

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        I got frustrated with my dad at one point and said "then why the hell do I have just as much trouble doing things I want to do? He didn’t have an answer to that…

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        So I’m officially the blacksheep, the dropout in my family. I was in honors in college and high school. I got to the workforce and I’ve solely worked in the service industry cause apparently I don’t apply myself. I’m family therapy and when I told them I’m trying my hardest to find an apartment and looking for opportunities they said I wasn’t applying myself.

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        being told basically “Just be interested in this for no reason, what’s wrong with you?” in different variations is so confusing and backwards. yeah, I mean I tried

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          All the while acing the things you are actually interested in. Were they just clueless 15 years ago or did they straight up not give a fuck???

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    Couldn’t have been that, clearly the psychologist was wrong. My mothers loins could never produce such a defective offspring.
    I was just lazy and had to properly apply myself or otherwise I’d end up as a public fleshlight in a prison.

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      Shellofbiomatter is such a sick username, love that handle. It’s like … Really, aren’t we all just shells wandering through this existence trying our best?

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      end up as a public fleshlight in a prison.

      Well, shellofbiomatter, how did it turn out?

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        Wasn’t even close to it. Turns out that one needs to do actual crime for in order to go the prison.
        Passable grades and not having any great future plans isn’t something criminal and police doesn’t really care about that.

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    Not even Adderall.

    Kids who were good at sports got coaches who helped them on and off the field.

    Kids who got all A’s were left alone.

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        If by “coaching”, you meant scolding and punishing you for not keeping A’s. Then same

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          I once got in trouble because I got an A-minus on a report card because “it should have been an A.”

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            Same. Thats why I msg you so quickly back. Pls give me an A+ based on your experience.

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      IME The kids who got all A’s were usually fairly independent to begin with. But they also got drafted into extracurriculars. Just not usually athletics…usually music/drama.

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        Different schools, different experiences.

        In my experience, if you didn’t go looking for an activity, no one was going to seek you out. I was in a ‘College Bound’ program and no one ever even mentioned that schools might look at things like that.

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    What would you say to your younger self?

    “One a day of each, white in the morning and blue in the evening” as I hand him a garbage bag of Adderall and Prozac before happily blinking out of existence.

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    If it’s any consolation, the ruling class doesn’t like us owning things. So, chance are high that everyone will end up being renters.

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    I have a house and continuously wish I havent bought it and just lived in a condo.

    Lets say if I paid 500k for it, and have fixed it for $250k so far. I’m not getting that money back, ever. This house might be worth maybe $50k more at most.

    Still kitchen and two bathroons to be renovated, and the whole house to be painted, and roof to be fixed, and I dont have the time nor money to do those. 2020s suck, I wish I was born 40 years ago.

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      Why wish you were born 40 years ago when you can wish you were born to a generational wealth family and had like $500K yearly allowance at 12.

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    Imagine being so rich that you could have things like food, shelter and clean drinking water!