what’s your biggest fear, not like spiders or heights, the real one
mine’s dying without ever actually making it, like looking back one day and feeling like i failed at life overall
curious what everyone else actually carries around …
I mean, God’s judgment is pretty scary, lol. Without taking Hell into consideration, If even He thinks I’m a cunt then there’s no way around it, and that’s a big blow to one’s self-esteem!
In this world… probably my wife dying early. I’d rather die before her like most men do, and perhaps I could tolerate her going first and me waiting some a year or so, heartbroken and fading, but anything else is just too much. 😔
Watching stuff like the Expanse or the Martian made me realize how much I’m scared of this vast open space. It makes me super uncomfortable to watch those astronauts in these movies often without any form of security doint something outside in space. All I can think of is one tiny asteroid and you are gone. Drifting in this vast empty space, watching all your life control fail over time and just slowly die.
So scary but also veery unlikely to happen to me :DScary thought. Do you get a similar feeling about open ocean or is it space specifically? Not my biggest fear but the idea of swimming in very deep water is very scary to me.
I nearly drowned as a kid and have slight thalassaphobia. Throw me in the ocean and I die from a panic attack ;D
I can’t swim in it. My body just shuts down. Seas and deep rivers are also no option. But the public pool is fine!
Oh wow. I’m sorry you have to deal with that. Can relate, but I’m more in the high discomfort zone than phobia. That almost drowning must have been terrifying. Do you remember it or was it an early infancy thing?
I was 9ish and it was my first time at the beach so I didn’t know anything about undercurrents. The days before were very stormy. So even though I was close to the beach I wasn’t able to get out. Whenever I thought I made it, I was pulled back in and underwater. My mother totally underestimated the situation and watched. Don’t know how long it actually took me but it felt like ages until I managed to crawl out.
Dang, sounds like a really close call. That’ll definitely buy you a phobia.
People can drown / get pulled far into deeper water p easily in some beaches, even in relatively shallow water (chest high). Just a few months ago a guy that owns a well known restaurant here tried to save someone from drowning in a situation similar to yours. He and 2 other people that also tried to help drowned trying to rescue the person, who also didn’t make it. Was all over the news. Some beaches’ll fuck you up.
Thanks for sharing and glad you’re OK.
That sounds terrifying. This actually reminds me a lot of ‘Deep Water’ by William Douglas, we read it in 12th grade, he went through something really similar as a kid …
You normally can’t see the bottom when it’s deep though. What difference does it make if it’s 2m or 200m?
Sea around here is so murky you can barely see past 1m anyway so rarely have any idea how deep it is unless you can touch it.
Loneliness. Without my wife or dog, I would descend into a most dark place.
I’m pretty shocked by how much my mental health has tanked since my dog passed away. I knew losing her would wreck me, but I didn’t realise how much she made my life worth living.
I’m so sorry. I look regularly at my little buddy and nearly weep knowing that I’ll likely outlive him. I mean, I hope I do because he’d be crushed if I didn’t.
Abandonment, by far. Fun fact: 0 fear of death.
Edit: btw OP, what is your success criteria for life?
Financial independence, not losing my loved ones, and real peace, that’s my success criteria//
Good aspirations. Hope you accomplish them.
Severe physical pain. I’m not really afraid of death, however a gruesome and painful leadup to death is what scares me the most
Being trapped in a country that descends in to rampant transphobia
Drowning in a small space like underwater caving. I’m a bit catastrophic. Normally no issues with water but the thought of being trapped somewhere small and watching it full up with water terrifies me. Safe to say I am never going caving or swimming in caves.
Oh and the apparently inexorable march towards fascism in the UK and the west is pretty bad too.
*claustrophobic 😅
Thanks, damn autocorrect.
I mean I was not 100% sure 😁
The destruction of everything I know and love merely due too ignorance, malice and apathy. OH WAIT
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My biggest fear is that people are forgetting how to write actual words.
Sorry sir, my grammar broke a little there , real question though, what’s your biggest fear?
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I am impressed I was able to read that first try. Good choice of omitted letters.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”
Being misunderstood and I am living it everyday (neurodivergent).
For me that has come to normality so i formulate everything as precicely as possible (i still get missunderstood)
Yeah it’s not about the cliché potential of misunderstanding and already being under NTs for a few decades I figured most of it out.
However, there are other layers of communication that fail them or me since it’s inherently based on assumptions and social networks (not the technological type).
Yeah. I know. I am highly ND as well. Now even lost my job because of this missunderstanding despite giving a litteral manual with examples: “hey this is how i need you to phrase things for me to understand. And this is what i mean when i say x”
The more adaptable we are, the more it sucks 😕
This happens to me all the time. Like, whenever I go to the doctor, the receptionist will be really nice to my wife and nasty to me and I have no idea what I did!
Probably spending the rest of my life alone.
Exactly what I’m living right now, the whole thing.
Making a small mistake that snowballs into manslaughter.
Man’s laughter, you say?
For a time recently I felt extremely overwhelmed and fearful of the idea that in death there is nothing and your consciousness slips away into a black nothingness and everything I had ever done was completely meaningless and that my existence was for nothing.
Oddly enough knowing that makes me happy because it means there is an escape to a lifetime of minor mistakes my stupid brain won’t let go of. Helps me live in the moment.
